Mom Arrested, Handcuffed to Hospital Bed for Attempting to Contact Kids
Last week, a Connecticut mother was arrested for having attempted to contact her children a month earlier when she was facing a life-threatening operation after a heart attack. She had texted the father asking if she could talk to them since she was afraid she might never speak to them again if the operation went badly.
The father did not allow the call with her kids and she never spoke to them. But somehow a judge found cause to issue a bench warrant for her arrest on a felony violation of a Restraining Order, an order which had been issued on bogus grounds anyway.
Five cops showed up at Margaret’s house to arrest her. FIVE. To arrest a petite, loving mother who had merely attempted to contact her children.
While being arrested, Margaret had severe chest pains, possibly another heart attack. She told the police she needed to take her heart medication, but they wouldn’t allow it. She was taken to Hartford Hospital where she was handcuffed to the bed all day, causing injuries to her wrists. She was in the hospital with a State Trooper guarding the door for three days until her arraignment in criminal court.
The warrant for Margaret’s arrest, which she was not shown, called for her to be taken into custody on a $20,000 bond, which she could not afford. At her arraignment on Thursday, Judge Neeta Vatti, surprisingly, dismissed the bail requirement and freed Margaret on her own recognizance. Perhaps this was due to the support she is getting from the many other mothers victimized by Connecticut Family Court.
However, Judge Vatti imposed a criminal Restraining Order on Margaret, upping the ante. Margaret can now be arrested without the need for a judge to issue a bench warrant if she contacts (or attempts to contact) her children. This fulfills the multi-systemic agenda: allow the father to keep mom away from the kids.
You may be wondering how Margaret could be arrested for violating a protective order nearly a month after the supposedly felony-level-serious violation. Not-so-coincidentally, she had filed for contempt against the father just days earlier. (The grounds for the contempt are unclear.) So this was/is obviously a collaboration between the father, family court, criminal court and the D.A.’s office. Not unusual at all.
MULTI-JUDICIAL THEFT OF HER KIDS
Margaret’s children, whom she affectionately calls Bean and Bud, were taken away from her when they were 11 and 12. They are now 14 and 15. Margaret was a teacher until her Family Court nightmare destroyed her career.
Judge Albis granted the father sole custody in 2019 based on trumped up, false allegations against her.
But here’s the kicker: Judge Albis ordered that the father not only have sole custody, but that he have the authority to decide when, where, how, and if Margaret could visit the kids. This, of course, enabled the father to torture her by depriving her completely of her children.
Judge Albis, through his custody ruling, enabled the ultimate male retribution against an ex—an uppity woman who had the temerity to walk away from a man’s abuse, thereby getting out from under his control.
Ahhh but that is what Family Court is designed for: to empower men to continue to exercise control over their exes through the children. And if that fails, to exact revenge for his loss of control by alienating her children from her.
At some point, Judge Gerard Adelman issued a civil Restraining Order against Margaret, which allowed for arrest and criminal prosecution if violated. Adelman is the most infamous mother-oppressing judge in all of Connecticut. There have been many attempts by women to excise him from the bench, even Congressional hearings, but, so far, no luck.
Margaret is in the process of appealing the custody order, in part based on the fact that a judge cannot give the father authority to decide visitation. She has done an amazing job doing the appeal pro se (representing herself).
In June of last year, Margaret filed her opening appellate brief, and in November, she presented her oral argument. She anxiously awaits the ruling. Every day without her kids is a painful day—and she is keeping count with a Count Up timer on a blogsite.
Today makes 1256 days—3 1/2 years—without her precious children.
SILVER LINING
A silver lining is that since this is Margaret’s first arrest, she qualifies under Connecticut’s “diversionary” program. If she fulfills certain requirements, she may have the felony charge vacated within 18 months.
Or it may be dismissed on an exception, as the violating text was sent during a life-or-death emergency. This would have benefitted the children as well as the mother. Also, the fact that it was nearly a month between the violation and the indictment shows it was not urgent or endangering and was actually a result of Margaret’s filing against the father for contempt.
It will be great if the charge is dismissed and the Appellate Court overturns the trial court orders. It will be very interesting to see if the higher court upholds judges’ discretion to allow a parent (read: father) to have the authority to dictate visitation with the other parent (read: mother).
Watch this space for updates.
MESSAGE TO MARGARET (and all mothers similarly situated):
Nolite te bastardes carborundorum!
[Don’t let the bastards grind you down!]
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WHAT FUCKING CENTURY IS THIS 'NE ... ... ANYHOW ? ! PATRIARCHY, PERIOD.
I’m so sick of this. I went through something similar and my relationship with my sons is destroyed because of the corrupt Denton, Texas family court system. I’m trying to have a documentary made about this.