Princess Gets Rare Result: No Contact for Abusive Father
Judge Only Ruled That AFTER Father Agreed To It in Mediation
Princess Haya achieved a rare custody outcome on Thursday: the abusive father, the powerful Prime Minister of the United Arab Emirates (UAE), cannot have any contact with his children.
Haya had escaped his control years earlier, fleeing to England, where her ex filed a motion for sole custody. The Women’s Coalition has followed Princess Haya’s case for years.
It appears from MSM reporting that a UK Family Court judge actually did the right thing for a change by granting Haya full legal and physical custody and no in-person contact with the father.
But, no real surprise, it turns out it was Haya herself who negotiated that outcome, not the judge denying contact with a father to protect a mother and children.
No, it was only after the father agreed to it, that the judge made what appears to be a proper and just ruling. And the judge/court is getting plenty of kudos from the DV community for doing what was not actually done.
It is likely Haya got her ex to drop his motion for sole custody by agreeing to not speak publicly about his abuse of her, another ex-wife, her stepdaughters, and others in his sphere, and possibly about information she had on him relating to politics.
IT’S ABOUT POWER
In other words, Haya brilliantly leveraged her own power, and in the end it trumped the father’s, despite the fact he is one of the world’s richest and most powerful men.
The most amazing feature of Haya’s situation was that she was allowed to remain in hiding from her husband in the first place. Grants of asylum are extremely rare for fleeing mothers, and they virtually never win Hague cases. And that’s for the same reason they don’t win state/local custody cases: judges at every level systematically and methodically dismiss abuse by fathers and entitle them to custody.
It undoubtedly helped that Haya knew people in power in the UK and escaped with 40 million dollars, with which she could compensate people and attorneys (and judges?) for helping her.
Most mothers are not so lucky. Custody cases are about power and women are not usually the ones with it.
PSYCHOLOGICAL ABUSE ACKNOWLEDGED
To the judge’s credit, he did find the father had inflicted “domestic abuse on an extraordinary scale against his ex-wife and psychologically harmed their children”.
The acknowledgement that psychological abuse harms children is great, but virtually never leads to any difference in custody outcomes. Even serious physical and sexual abuse by fathers is minimized and dismissed.
This calling out of the father’s controlling behavior by the judge should not really qualify as sticking his neck out, as that fact has been splashed all over international media for years. [The father, of course, has denied any abuse.]
FIRST WIFE STILL CAN’T SEE DAUGHTER
The father’s first of six wives, Randa, whom he married when she was just 16, left him when her daughter was a baby. In retaliation, he took her baby away, not allowing any contact at all. Randa has attempted to see her daughter over the decades, but, although her daughter is now in her forties, she is still not allowed.
Randa has remained quiet in the past about in the hope she would be able to see her daughter someday, but she decided to speak out in support of Haya for her custody case.
Two of the father’s children from an earlier marriage have accused him of serious abuse. When they attempted to escape from his control as adults, he hunted them down, captured them, and is reportedly keeping them enslaved.
PRINCESS HAYA’S ESCAPE
In 2019, Princess Haya was caught having an affair with her British bodyguard, so a divorce was imminent.
In the UAE, fathers still have legal ownership of their children. Considering the revenge wreaked on Randa, Haya must have known she faced her husband getting revenge by taking her children away from her, with the distinct possibility of never seeing them again unsupervised—or at all. Or using them to get whatever he might want from her.
This lack of power to keep custody of her children likely fueled her desire to escape from her home in Dubai. With help from a German diplomat, Haya made her escape to Germany, where she received asylum. She eventually made her way to the UK where she lived in hiding.
Haya was granted two protective orders there: a Restraining Order to protect herself and her children, and a “Forced Marriage Protection Order” to protect her daughter from being forced into marriage by her father, which apparently can be done in the UAE.
When the Prime Minister found out where Haya was living, he tried to purchase a home near her. This was used in the custody case to support her contention he was controlling and stalking.
NOT JUST THE 3rd WORLD
In the 3rd world, men still enjoy overt legal ownership of children. But even though women have gained the right to custody in democratic Western countries, in practice they are still powerless to maintain custody or protect their children. It is not surprising that men created a system that would perpetuate their most coveted patriarchal entitlement.
A judge ordering no contact between children and a father, no matter how abusive or dangerous, is an extremely rare occurrence.
That is in contrast with the fact that judges often make orders depriving mothers of contact with their children if that is what the father wants, or simply do not enforce orders for visits with the mother.
Sometimes judges deprive children of their mothers as part of the program to “coercively persuade” (brainwash) them into complying with orders to live with their father. This often causes trauma bonding, a false bond with the father to fill the vacuum created by the loss of their primary attachment figure. [Watch this page for a future column about that Family Court phenomenon.]
The bottom line is: what the father wants with regards to custody of children, he usually gets via family courts around the world.
Patriarchy underlies the Family Court system.
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This Article and words are 100% true as I have been a victim of the fake corrupt family court system since 2010, in Cuyahoga County, Cleveland Ohio. My ex lit the match & the judge burned down the house. I was left homeless w/o a car, after agreeing to 50/50 custody forced by my first hired divorce attorney. My ex later went back for full of our 4th child, son, in a NO REASON VINDICTIVE RETALIATION. Our son was 13 @ the time. Then 7 years later he went for full custody of our last and 5th child when she was 17 1/2. I refuse to entertain & show up to court! I did file a letter to the judge and court I would NOT subject myself, nor my kids with any more abuse of my ex and the courts. My ex held my daughters car from her unless she signed the papers 💔🥲💔🥲💔