Siblings Supposedly Coached Sister to Disclose Sexual Abuse. Right...
A New Twist in the Cover-Up of Sexual Abuse in Family Court
In a case that spans Colorado and California, two siblings have been accused of coaching their younger sister to disclose sexual abuse by their father.
This sibling-coaching tactic is a new twist on the old Family Court methodology used to cover up of sexual abuse by fathers. Of course, the mother is also being falsely accused of coaching. But that pretty much goes without saying.
Amazingly, the siblings who supposedly coached their younger half-sister are the father’s biological children from a previous marriage. So his own children are coaching their little sister to disclose sexual abuse? That doesn’t make sense.
But there is a nefarious reason for this new tactic.
MOM’S STORY
The mother is under a gag order, so we’ll refer to her here as “Mom”.
When Mom married her husband, he had two daughters from a previous marriage. They had a daughter of their own whom we will call “Baby” to lessen confusion between the three sisters.
When Mom’s husband divorced his ex, he was granted equal parenting time (of course) with his two daughters. So every other week the girls would spend a week with their father and her.
Her husband developed a serious alcohol abuse problem, drinking nightly from dinnertime to 5am and became violent. One time, he struck her “full force” in the face while she was holding 1 year-old Baby.
After that incident, Mom fled to California with Baby to live in peace and safety near her family. A judge founded the DV incident had occurred and issued a Restraining Order. This permitted her to remain in California.
THE STEPDAUGHTERS
Unfortunately, despite the fact that the father was a violent alcoholic, Mom’s stepdaughters were forced to continue visiting him after she fled to California. At this time, the girls were 16 and 13 and should have been able to decide where to live; but as divorced mothers quickly discover, judges usually continue to give fathers custody and control of kids until they turn 18.
At some point, the girls resisted and were subsequently ordered into “reunification therapy”. This “therapy” is done by cherry-picked, court-appointed therapists to coerce children into silence about the father’s abuse and compliance with court orders to live with him.
In 2022, Organa turned 18 and was legally freed from court-ordered reunification therapy and having to live with her father against her will. Free at last! Off to college…
Since Organa is aged out of the system, she is not subject to a gag order. She is speaking out to the Gazette about how Family Court enabled her father’s abuse.
But her younger sister remained under the father’s control. Last year, she ended up in the emergency room after having a “psychological breakdown” while at her father’s. She was diagnosed with PTSD [post-traumatic stress disorder] caused by the father’s abuse.
She disclosed to the ER doctor that her father sleeps in her bed and touches her thighs. This was later whitewashed as “grooming” behavior. The doctor reported that she was at risk of another breakdown if she were forced to go with her father, but she was still not protected. After all, it was just “grooming”.
Important to note: children often do not tell the whole story right away, so the ER staff likely only got a first glimpse of what the father was doing. Judges know this. It is not rocket science. That’s why judges only allow children to see a court-appointed therapist they can count on to silence children about the fathers’ abuse.
Recently, at 17 and a half years-old, she was finally allowed to not visit her father. A very belated win.
CALIFORNIA GIRLS
Meanwhile, Mom has been living in California with Baby who is now 5 years-old. Apparently the father has been allowed some visitation.
Baby has been going to a non-court-appointed therapist in California and, therefore, has been able to disclose physical and sexual abuse by the father. She told about her father hitting her in the head and said he puts his finger in her vagina. These are clear disclosures of penetrative sexual assault, the most serious kind.
There were two custody trials in both California and Colorado this year, which is weird. The judges are acting like they don’t know where jurisdiction is, but it should clearly be in California where Mom and Baby have been living for four years.
In August, there was a hearing in Colorado. Magistrate Sara Zane presided.
The evaluator who is the subject of the Gazette article testified for the father, even though she was not acting as the case evaluator and she had been barred from performing evaluations due to multiple violations of professional conduct. Additionally, she had been a Reunification Therapist for the stepdaughters and was clearly biased to the father.
This evaluator/therapist testified that Organa and her sister had coached Baby to falsely accuse their father of sexual abuse. She used that as a basis to recommend Baby be isolated from her sisters in the future.
This is the reason for this unusual tactic. The father was having a hard time getting away with sexually abusing Baby because the sisters were present. Also, they supported her truth that she was being abused so it would make it more difficult to silence Baby. Typical perp enabler tactic: isolate the victim.
Mom’s attorney shot back to the therapist on the stand saying that would mean there would be nobody there for Baby to tell if she were being abused.
So, if something was occurring and [Baby] couldn’t be alone with anybody, she would have nobody to report that to here in Colorado, correct?
So the intent of this sibling-coaching charade is glaringly obvious. To enable the father and silence the child.
Baby’s therapist testified that Baby’s disclosures of physical and sexual abuse to her were credible. She said that after every visit, she only says bad things about the father despite her trying to elicit some good things. She testified that she believed Baby was not safe being with the father unsupervised.
Judge Zane lamely stated that while she was “concerned” about Baby’s disclosures, she was just not sure what happened. She claimed Mom did not provide enough “information” to justify restricting the father’s visits to supervised.
The court’s really not sure what happened.
…While the court is concerned that this statement [of sexual abuse by Baby] was made…the court just really wasn’t provided the information it needs in order to…restrict parenting time.
But the weird thing is that at the same time she was basically saying there was insufficient evidence, she actually stated it was not necessary to make a finding.
…And it’s not necessary for this court to determine if the disclosure made by [Baby] happened or didn’t happen.
That is false. She is lying.
It is her job to make a finding and she damn well knows it. She must by law do what is in the best interests of the child. And to do that, she must make a determination as to whether the father abused Baby by preponderance of the evidence.
In the end, Zane did her job. She gave the father custody and unsupervised visitation. In doing so enabled him to continue to molest Baby. A child molester enabler.
In September, there was a trial in California on Mom’s motion for a permanent protective order for Baby and her. The CA judge did not rule on it, saying she was putting it off as she was not sure where proper jurisdiction was. She appeared to be punting to the Colorado Court, knowing very well Baby was not being protected there.
Shame on these judges—women judges who sell women out for a warm seat at the Old Boys’ table. A special place in hell...
TAKEAWAYS
This case is taken from a recent article in the Denver Gazette that focuses on one particular, errant evaluator. In all the cases covered, this evaluator has dismissed abuse by the fathers and spun the cases to them. Although the investigative journalism of the “how” of these Custody Crisis cases is great, the “what, why and proposed solutions” are wrong and misleading.
There is no acknowledgement of the gendered nature or cause of the crisis, despite all the cases involving protective mothers. And the old, ineffective solutions are being trotted out like, wait for it…more training.
[C]ontroversies over the work of parental evaluators revealed in investigative reports by The Gazette prompted lawmakers three years in a row to place family court reform at the top of the legislative agenda, requiring new domestic violence and child abuse training for parental evaluators.
Another new law is being promoted which is meant to protect parents who allege abuse from losing custody. However, a similar law was enacted in California twenty years ago and has made zero difference.
A new law also is meant to protect parents who raise valid claims of child and sexual abuse during custody disputes, barring judges from restricting the parenting time of protective parents solely to improve a child’s relationship with an abusive parent.
Also, evaluators are not the cause; they are a symptom. The problem is that judges have the power to cherry-pick evaluators and other professionals who they know will do their bidding. An upcoming column will delve into that: The Court-Appointee Rabbit Hole.
This Mom’s case is yet another really good example demonstrating how judges are knowingly giving kids to molester fathers. This follows our column covering a new study that confirms judges are deliberately enabling molester fathers: Groundbreaking Study Confirms Judges Are Knowingly Enabling Molester Fathers.
To normal people outside the Family Court system, it is insane that there is even a question of whether this Mom should be granted a permanent RO.
Insane, but oh so predictable. It happens every day in family courts around the world.
The important point is: no matter how much “evidence” mothers have, it is never enough. Never enough to keep the father from accessing his children. Because the Family Court system does not exist, as it should, to do what is in children’s best interests.
No. It exists to keep men in power and control in the family after divorce. Period. End of story.
We need a new system—a system in which judges do not have the power to take and endanger our children.
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NOTE: Unless otherwise noted, all columns are written Cindy Dumas, M.A., victim of the Custody Crisis. Two judges knowingly gave custody to the child molester father. A brief recap here: savingdamon.com.
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CHAPTER 27; ACT I: NEXT PART IS OUT!
CHAPTER 27 of Mother-Fucking: The Saga of One Fucked Mother begins with Act I of “The Opera”—from Book 3, the last part of the book. The Opera has three Acts with five Parts—one part for each of the three Family Court trials and two Appellate trials. Chapter 27 covers Acts I and II: the first two Family Court trials and the first Appellate Court trial. [This is a long chapter and will be published in newsletter-sized bites.]
In this section, the curtain closes on Act I. The trial is over, the divorce is finalized and joint custody decreed, with primary physical custody to Legion. This is what she expected since she had been the primary caregiver for twelve years. What she doesn’t realize—yet—is that is not the reason she was given primary custody. It was because Herry didn’t request it.
Legion dissects the Findings made by “daJudgeMan” noting how double standards prevail throughout and how he degrades her and uplifts Herry. Herry’s misbehavior, crimes, and history of terrible parenting were dismissed and she was ordered to “overlook” all that. But she’s happy to exit the awful bachelor pad Herry had bought without her knowledge and leave behind depressing memories associated with it. She and the boys move into a cozy condo just walking distance from their school.
Everything is looking up. Maybe being a single mama is better after all…
In the last section, Legion is nervous about the trial but feels confident she will get custody as all the evidence that she had been the primary and better parent supports that, except for, of course, the cherry-picked, “male-identified” evaluator. She notes that the interrogatory questions, part of the discovery phase, are almost all about finances, not who the more nurturing parent would be. The sexism inherent in the system is becoming apparent even at this early stage of the proceedings.
Dr. Blue’s novel is based on her own experience of the Custody Crisis. It uniquely conveys how Family Court judges are “mother-fucking” women—a form of systemic oppression and violence directed at ex-wives—as protagonist Legion is systematically and methodically deprived of her children and money and reduced to “one fucked mother”.
Chapters are stand-alone interesting so you can begin reading anywhere. A Cast of Characters follows to help readers at any point [on the web page]. All published chapters are included in the Section: “Saga of One F**ked Mother” accessible on the top bar of the home page of Women’s Coalition News & Views. Sequential chapters are published every Wednesday and subscribers will find them in their inboxes, so make sure to subscribe if you haven’t yet!
TEASERS
What a(nother) literal … mother‑fucking. Misogynistically … woman‑loathingly typical.
“Be lesser than, get down. Get down, Woman. For sure: be less than he is. He, daMan. He daMan, who, pillared and male, looks just like me, daJudgeMan!”
…And, most especially, I was fucking court‑ordered to overlook those––overlook those which are the crimes of––my Boys’ daddee! No matter how endangering! I had to DEhuman myself, else face a future of unhappiness.
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These judges are sex traffickers. They need to be publicized and picketed as sex traffickers:
Thank you for bringing light to this epidemic of abuse in our family court systems.