CHAPTER 20: Too Bad It’s Really a Rolodex Life and Not Exactly the Coveted Rolex Life
From "The Saga of One F**ked Mother"
“Too Bad It’s Really a Rolodex Life and Not Exactly the Coveted Rolex Life” is Chapter 20 of Mother-Fucking: The Saga of One Fucked Mother.
In this chapter, Legion is busy with the boys’ activities in their new school year, while Herry is busy plotting with Family Court attorneys to get sole custody of her boys and put blame on her. She stumbles across some terrible secrets of Herry’s past in a rolodex—Step 4 of his fake recovery. She is repelled and worries about her boys being alone with him and his brother—who had also committed crimes on their siblings (and animals) in their youth.
In the last chapter, Legion is shocked and horrified that Herry has told the boys they are not really married. She recognizes, looking back, that Herry’s newfound, born-again “churchiness” was part of his revenge prep—to look good in Family Court for his upcoming bid to take custody of the boys away from her. This awakens Legion’s disgust for organized religion and its foundational misogyny and oppression.
Dr. Blue’s novel is based on her own experience of the Custody Crisis. It uniquely conveys how Family Court judges are “mother-fucking” women—a form of systemic oppression and violence directed at ex-wives—as protagonist Legion is systematically and methodically deprived of her children and money and reduced to “one fucked mother”.
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TEASERS
“Tell me with whom you walk, and I will tell you who you are.” Or, grope. Or, fuck. As in, “Tell me with whom ya’ fondle or fuck, and I’ll tell ya’ who ya’re.”
I was played that June 1988 day like an angel’s harp bringing the mighty fine and pillared doctor the fresh swell of the melody matching his much‑anticipated freedom. Out Dr. Herod Edinsmaier walked and right onto his own continuing and well‑worn trail; this time, though, that path of his took Herod first and straightaway to legal counsel.
CHAPTER 20
Too Bad It’s Really a Rolodex Life and Not Exactly the Coveted Rolex Life
“Dime con quién andas y te diré quién eres.”
—dictó from the Latin: a rough translation of the saw: “Tell me with whom you walk and I’ll tell you who … you are.”
So ended that summer. Just another mother‑fucking stretch of warmer weather this one, too, had been and not at all the fun‑filled and relaxed one that it had begun as in mid May or that I had promised myself at the beginning of June I could still crank out for Mirzah, Zane and Jesse. School again, Kate Mitchell again, and now Mirzah was in the third grade and Ms. Majilton his teacher; Jesse started the fourth grade with Ms. Médy, and Zane was finishing his elementary years by beginning his sixth grade level with Ms. Schwartzkopf. I had my hands full with single parenting such as it now had essentially become, so was postponing job‑hunting a little bit longer. Of course, still I was operating on a superficial and day‑to‑day basis as if life on Othello Drive would soon be restored and, silently and so wrongfully, let the Truemaier Boys function that way, too. Two more mistakes of mine ...
Before anybody could catch their collective breath after the flurry of the activities at the start of the school year and dive into the swim of things in any semblance of a regular rhythm, Ms. Schwartzkopf’s father suddenly passed away down near a small town called Winterset, the county seat of the covered bridges’ territory, Madison County. Right off and without considering the possible negative consequences, like the car crashing and my being accountable for the limbs and lives of any, let alone several, sixth graders, I volunteered to Ms. Schwartzkopf and her principal, Ms. Stuart, that I would be happy to take Zane and up to four other sixth graders in the Shitbox Dodge wagon down to Winterset, a distance of about 75 miles and 1½ hours each way, to their teacher’s dad’s funeral. Zane, at his age then of eight, had only previously ever been to his Grandma Detanimod’s funeral but at which event he may have been a bit distracted by all of the relatives’ mourning machinations. That is, a lot of us people familiar to him there were crying a lot! I thought here, with this sixth grade thing,–here was a situation somewhat removed, a little further away emotionally, so that maybe Zane would have a not‑so‑distracted, educational opportunity to observe how some folks honored their now newly made Ancestors.
I forgot, or did not take into account, that Ethan, Zane’s contemporary in the previous autumn’s multiple clandestine cigarette‑smoking rendezvous, would no doubt jump at a chance to miss school––and yet not formally be counted as absent. And that he most certainly did do, too. Very soon after Ethan’s hand shot up when the question of who’d like to go was asked, there was a whole passel of sixth graders following suit, none of them wanting to attend out of instructive benefit or honoring the dead’s living but, fairly clearly, because it meant a free day with free food, all with a free ride. All smart kids. No dummies here! With parents’ signed permissions off we trekked. Actually, the day would have been one completely transpired without a hitch, even with Ethan along leading the gang so to speak, if it hadn’t’ve been for the pungently strong smell of rubber emanating from under the dashboard and out into the station wagon’s interior. On the way home just north of Ankeny and traveling on two‑lane Highway #69 just about 19 miles from Kate Mitchell School’s front door we halted.
All in all, that too, turned into a learning experience for the kids because we stopped in the yard of a farmhouse close by to the roadway; and all five sixth‑graders watched me figure out what would now be the safest course for getting them all back those last 19 miles to school where their parents were waiting for them. Without the wagon catching on fire or, probably as dangerous, our all being stranded out on the open highway.
As it was, their former teacher in the fifth grade, Mr. Pewter, motored down to pick them all up in his own vehicle. While we waited, the elderly couple whose home we’d temporarily commandeered most graciously hosted us and seemed genuinely happy to be helping out young kids. It did not appear to me that the students learned a thing about Ancestoring, that it had, indeed, been, overall, only a day off and free from school.
But. Zane, the caring, giving and compassionate boy that he was, felt really, really good about his and my having done this thing for Ms. Schwartzkopf. And she? For weeks and months afterwards whenever an occasion brought me to school and to the sixth grade classroom, Ms. Schwartzkopf expressed to me how moved she and her family had been at some of her students making this ‘effort’ and how grateful she was to me for having taken the trouble to chauffeur and chaperone them all through one of her life’s most difficult days. Maybe Zane, at least, learned some that day on Ancestoring. I am thinking so. Curious it was about the car, too. My mechanic found nothing amiss to explain the mysterious smell upon my and Zane’s so carefully driving it home alone, not even a broken brake hose or some such; and the wagon worked well from that day forward with no further problem found. And as before with Mehitable’s certain, so‑not‑happening late December visit to Williamsburg because the Truemaier Boys and I all, instead, slip‑slid across ice‑covered Columbia, at least I had not played highway roulette with these children’s lives—and I myself felt good about that, too.
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Mirzah and Jesse were off to fine starts, too. Ms. Majilton soon retired after that specific school year; and whenever, which was often, I would run into her at the Save‑U‑More Deli, she always admiringly asked after Mirzah and his well‑being, nothing about which, of course, could I tell her—because, in short order from after that third grade year of his, I was not to know of Mirzah nor of his welfare. Ms. Médy, while of European ancestry herself, was married to an Hispanic man whose last name she then used as her own. Perhaps, Jesse’s lifelong intrigue with things related to the Spanish language began that year with her. I don’t really know because all too soon of Jesse and of things his, as well as of Mirzah’s and Zane’s, I was to know nothing. But—then during those particular academic months at any rate—Jesse certainly did take a special shine to Ms. Médy and thrived right away under her tutelage.
No small thing for a young ten‑year‑old whose father was as far as fathering went pretty much, well, altogether out of the picture except for Herry’s purposefully and staunchly perpetuating the 17‑year‑old older brother, Joy‑Toy‑Boy act, which he, of course, had always purported with his sons. Come every single Friday night, Saturday and Sunday, Jesse and his two brothers would join ‘this other, older bro’ for a perpetual 48 hours of relentless, blank television and junk snacks with no animal‑caretaking duties nor regular, housekeeping chores so that ‘suppers’, too, amounted to takeouts and fast foods. At his, Herry’s, behest and directive to me of course, the every‑weekend ‘visitation’ such as it certainly was at its very, very most—that is, mere ‘visiting’—continued. Quite fortunately, the Truemaier Boys had absolutely no long‑distance, roundtrip car treks to endure for these every‑five‑days’ visits and, unfortunately, Dr. Herod Edinsmaier had absolutely no waiting‑in‑the‑wings, next‑mama’s boyfriend or second husband, a Truemaier Boys’ stepfather no less!, with whom he would have had to learn to work!––in order to share the Boys and their activities, their schedules, their and his job agendas—most importantly that is, their time! their attention!
I do not now know what would have happened if right then, at the start of that particular school year of theirs, I had somehow put a screaming halt to these weekend foray fiascoes that were Herry’s, the Man’s, fiat. Totally arbitrarily it was. But he, the Man, … actually the ‘older teenaged brother’ … had decreed. And so, therefore, ... I complied.
I should have desisted. I have no idea why I did not—other than that I was not only trying to be good but was also scared to death—and actually, as it turns out, it was so wise of me to be: frightened to the nth degree of what Herry would physically do to me if I had not brought to him, the Man, his children. Every time, every weekend that is, that he, the Man, stated he wanted them.
Only pons asinorum, cruxy thing though: they are not his children. And never were. Mirzah, Jesse and Zane are my children. For at least the most recent 60 millennia of Nature, this relatedness, this ancestral connectedness between the children, the offspring, and their female parent, er, their Not Male parent, had been so. For only, literally, 12,000 years has it not been so. For a period of only 1/5th as long as all of those previous prehistoric years has my bonding and my linkage been so unNaturally usurped and overtaken by ... overpowered by the parent sowing this testicular and testosteronal seed. What is so odd—so unNatural, as a matter of fact, with the biodaddee up and just leaving the cave altogether? That is the way it was before—… before we females began … to piss off … the males.
And the weekends. They were mine, too. Only, now, they weren’t mine, were they? I, and anything me and mine including my time off from all of my labors of laundry, cleaning, cooking and so forth had been preempted by the Man, the male parent, and his mother‑fucking ukase.
In hindsight how I wish I would have tested what would have happened if I had, then that academic autumn, just said no and not allowed this every‑weekend bullshit. On one such Friday exchange at around about 5:30 pm—to accommodate Herry’s work schedule of course—it was left to me to bring the Boys by to the South 4th Street apartment which I dutifully did do. It was still sparse in appearance and furnishings. No more homeyness to it all than the day Herry had moved in I surmised. And not a toy in sight. Just the television set at the foot of the nearly bare double bed sprawled so as to take up almost a third of the studio apartment’s entire floor space.
We four filed in singly. Space was we had to; there simply was not room enough for us to just enter into it together. I did not want to come in, to be in there at all; this was so, so uncomfortable for me. I could only imagine what Jesse, Mirzah and Zane had been feeling for so many weekends before this one.
Then … Taker‑Slacker Edinsmaier had the galling grandiosity to state to the thin air apparently, er, meaning to me of course, that is … that we all had shown up earlier than when he was ready for the Truemaier Boys, that he had business down at his car to take care of, something about books and a camera and a microscope and that—without so much as one query to me in consideration of my evening’s schedule plans and most definitely and ordinarily usual without so much as addressing me whatsoever—still—by my first name … Legion … during any part of his declaration—commanded me, Legion, but truly now this specific hour’s “Assigned Au Pair” (although more like an “Aunt Sally”) of his, to stay until he came back up from the parking lot.
And. Off he went. This was so awkward that I just took up a seat at the kitchen table on one of its two chairs only—for a weekend’s ‘family of four.’ The table sat immediately under the unit’s one window which looked out over the parking lot, and there was Herry all right, messing in the back of that beater white Toyota Crown of his between its side doors and the rear hatch. The Boys immediately, as if robots, took up residence on the bed after flipping on the TV to whatever the hell was on its networks’ screen on Fridays around 6 pm, and just lay there on that bed as if stoned. Like stoned robots. Good, little, stony statues that moved in sync every now and then. But subdued synchronization, not at all the boisterous or rousing youngsters whom I knew back on Othello Drive. One couldn’t even say that they were, well, active. That they were … alive!
My gaze fell upon the brown rectangular box with the black, plastic dust cover resting atop a copy of the good ol’ big book of alcoholics anonymous—both of which lie upon the kitchen table to my right. It was a Rolodex complete with scores of little white cards about 3 inches by 2 inches. Its lid up I read the first card at where its single, linear row was randomly opened, seeing on this one card near the front of the whole queue Dr. Herod Edinsmaier’s highly recognizable handwriting, “I’ve fucked cows, dogs, pigs and chickens.”
Great god! What?! What did it say?! I read it again. That is what it said all right, “I’ve fucked cows, dogs, pigs and chickens.”
Hand‑scripted in exactly that order, the beasts were aligned. Maybe, however in Truth, that had not been the exact pecking order of the poor critters perped upon by their pecker, that is ya’ know, by their … critter‑fucker. No sheep though. ‘Least, none so stated on this particular Rolodex card.
I turned that one forward on the rod through its base reading what came up on the very next card, “Several times I’ve fondled my little sisters Kay, Celeste and Murielle, and I know my brother Atwater has too. I was about 14 or so. No one’s ever said anything about this though.”
I glanced out the window and down to the parked cars. Herry still putzed at whatever was so important with all of that gear of his. The little humanoids continued to stifle their machine‑like selves, and I continued to flip and read. One after another. Right there this unbosoming with, of course, under it the good ol’ big alcoholics whatever. As if scripting this Step #4 inventory, which is what it read like, down on to neat, rectangular pieces of white cardstock and inserting them all into an as neatly structured, rectangular office desk box made all of Herry’s asseveration somehow … forgiven or, better yet, erased. Deleted. As if the act of performing this ‘journaling’ exercise was alone penance enough and, therefore it all also came along with entitled exoneration. From that which had been Herry’s real life. The real life that had been his childhood and his adolescence and, of course, that had carried just as ridiculously long, long into his adulthood. Priestly absolution Dr. Edinsmaier was bestowing upon himself by way of these true, although never‑to‑be trumpeted, let alone made‑known‑at‑all‑to‑any‑others‑ever, confessions of his.
Kind of like when the police police themselves and the fact that judges are lawyers before they become judges and can, therefore, mete out justice just, well, … just because they’re ‘of the law’, of course. It all has to do with the Good Ol’ Boys Club’s pillaredness. Either the Man has it: status and clout and position and image—and, of course also, all of the subsequent ‘support’ and ‘backing’ which comes along with all of that—or … he doesn’t. And the good doctor, any doctor does, of course. So Herry can, for himself, take care to just up and delete these little ol’—and that means old as in historical—pesky remnants of a behavioral aberration he cannot possibly name, sexual addiction—by his writing them all tidily down and claiming them, therefore, to be only of the ‘logical’ symptomatology of the addiction to which he will admit: that of alcohol. The “disease” from which he also now avers to no longer suffer whatsoever, of course. Blesséd he is, too, in this escape—by good ol’ bill w and dr bob—and now, again of course as well, by saint thomas aniqua’s “sweet father” james elppus, all of their excusing words of acceptance and especially their admonishments and scolding to us women in chapter eight to just cool it, to basically sit on back and, particularly so, to shut the fuck up and take what’s dished out to us actually, and by all of those wonderful folks’ unquestioning capitulation and acquiescence including Varry Wussamai’s over at Herry E’s and Varry W’s McKenzie Avenue alcoholics anonymous hangout any ol’ time the good Doctor Herod Edinsmaier wants it from them. He writes it down. He makes it go away. O o o o, too convenient, huh?
Subsequent cards I read contained on them no fucking sheep. Nor, fucking of sheep either, for that matter.
That is: no fucked sheep. Lucky sheep. Fortunate sheep.
Those three little sisters, however, had not been quite so lucky. One card started, “Juggern.” That’d be the Great, the Almighty, the Edinsmaier to outdo all other Edinsmaiers, that Juggern Aut Misein Edinsmaier. “Juggern, my father, was banned by my mother to stay down in the milkhouse for two months. Mom found him with Murielle who was four at the time.” That was all, “… found him with.” If Murielle had been four, then Celeste would’ve been five and Kay six or maybe even seven years of age.
And Dr. Herod Edinsmaier himself would have been 12 years old. Old enough, certainly, to have remembered this episode in his own dad’s living arrangement at home. Old enough, too, to figure out for himself what his dad thought of his mom and of her little girls’ lives. Of course, Juggern’s own daughters they were as well ... but no matter, that. Actually old enough Herry was, and certainly all of the six Edinsmaier sons were, too, in this time frame, to have ‘learned’ from it. Learned from it, that is, as to ‘how’ to do it. Whatever the ‘it’ with females and, specifically with little girls, was. To be exhibiting this perversity themselves with little sisters … two years later. If Herry was 14 and Atwater, who was older than Herry by about four years or so, was also ‘a good student’ of their father’s, why then this Juggern‑banned‑to‑live‑in‑the‑milkhouse thing had happened two years before Herry remembered, on this Rolodex card, that he and (at least) Atwater mimicked … their daddy. Fondling? Fondling what? Groping what and where? Frotteuristically fondling and what? More?
I had known this first part about Juggern Edinsmaier. About this particular patriarch’s having been made at some point in the Edinsmaier Family History to take all of his meals and to receive clean laundry and to sleep every night down in the milkhouse, a dairying structure about two‑to three‑minutes’ stride is all from the back porch door of the family’s isolated farmhouse. The milkhouse was no house and never designed to be kept as even an apartment. But that is essentially what its use had morphed into, a parlor of sorts, in parlance. This I had known from Detanimod’s herself having told me that she would elaborate on, “ … when I get better in the spring.”
As we know, Mrs. Edinsmaier instead died that next spring. In its midst—May the 10th—dead she was of the cancer which had plagued and ravaged her reproductive system one child shy of a whole live dozen by, and one month shy of her 50th wedding anniversary to, the great Juggern which would have occurred on the 05th or the 07th of June that year … 1985, I can never seem to remember which of those two early June dates. Back during the holiday vacation of the previous December 1984, when Herry and all three of the Truemaier Boys and I had come to visit, there had been a particular morning when all of them had traipsed off into town to play at Herry’s high school acquaintance’s house. I made 74‑year‑old Detanimod as comfortable as was possible in her olive, overstuffed vinyl chair upside the brown, wooden kitchen table long and large enough to seat the entire Edinsmaier population at such gathering times. I sat down at it, all spread with poinsettias and greenery and gold ribbons woven into the patterns that were the three white tablecloths it always took to cover it all over. She proceeded to whisper over spoonful sips of hot chocolate I fed to her, “When I get better in the spring, I will tell you some things that’ll help you understand why Herry is the way he is. I’ll tell you ‘bout why there was that time when I had had to have Juggern Aut stay down in the milkhouse.”
So. This much I already knew. Most of the rest I could certainly and easily piece together from my own personal research and study of the sociopathology of rural women and their families isolated out on the prairies. For decades and centuries and, as a matter of fact now, over many millennia’s worth of desperate American females’ desolation. Including as far to the Ends of this Nation’s Earth as nearly the North Pole, certainly encompassing to Alaska’s North Slope native women of and surrounding Pointe Barrow. Or. Isolated out on the desert sands, the mountainous settlements, the outback bush, behind shuttered windows of winding, narrow paths of Kabul‑like cities on the rest of the Planet. And of course, isolated in plain sight but fuckingly weight down under such blackened and bulky and heavy and hot yardages of tightly woven and stifling and concealing fabrics. Forced to Breathe like this. From top to toe and hither and yon. Everywhere. In order to be “safe”. Everywhere. Including down to and back from … the not‑nearly‑so‑remote‑enough milkhouse.
For approximately the last one dozen millennia now. It isn’t hard to figure this out. Actually truly quite simple it is.
What was Mrs. Edinsmaier going to do when she ‘found’ her husband with one of her little, little girls? Pretend like this is what real and normal daddies everywhere did ‘with’ their littlest daughters? Or. Up and leave him? Leave him she was and take 11 kids, well over half of them still minor children, with her? Where would she go? Take with her all of the baby chicks and all of the Holstein dairy calves for which she was also responsible? Where would they all go?
O … I bet you’re thinking, “Why didn’t she just go to the sheriff?” Now that’s funny. The sheriff? In that county? The sheriff that Juggern, the most Republican of Republicans, the respected and near‑royal community and educational leader and … well, the pious and patriarchally pillared Bass County Republican chairman, helped get elected? That sheriff?
No, Detanimod was not going to go to the sheriff. Nor, to any other local lawman either, now was she?
O … she should go for counseling, you reckon. She should. Not he?! But hysterical Detanimod should, huh?!
Well, like to whom should she go then? O … like to the local parish priest? JYeah, right. A priest. Like a priest would not only know how to help her but would. Help her, that is. Not to mention the very well‑known fact that in their Fatlantic community Juggern Aut was then the single most revered layman, eldering prophet and certainly … progenitor … (after all, he was exalted‑sperm donor to and had generated from his semen then 11 live kids and [at least] 14 known pregnancies out of [at least] this one woman’s womb, hadn’t this man? Surely a saint himself, not?) that saints john and jude roman catholic church had ever seen since, well, … since it and its O‑so phallically androcentric steeple arose up from out that prairie stubble of southwest Iowa so many years before. That is, so many years before … these disquieting yet kept O‑so quiet events of the Edinsmaier Family History.
No, Detanimod knew she would not be going to the priest. Nor, to any other local psych types ministering and meting out advice and counsel for daughter—and/or sister—handling? For daughter—and/or sister—fondling? Or, er, for … worse.
A good wife and a good mother just didn’t do that in the 1950s and 1960s, now did she? Do that? Ya’ know, let the cat out of the bag, so to speak. A good woman kept this mother‑fucking and, as it so turns out, this daughter‑fucking and this sister‑fucking shitfuck to herself she did … and if failing only exactly that—kept to herself alone, then … most certainly … kept well within the confines of just … ‘The Family’.
And so. To stop what Detanimod feared was the worst she, silently and alone ... O‑so alone, exiled Juggern to the milkhouse for as long as she possibly could before such askew things might begin ‘to be noticed’, like say, by the neighbors or by other farm‑related folks coming onto the homestead who had dealings with Juggern Aut, the milkshed people or the feed salesmen or some such others. Or, even by persons from Fatlantic’s parish or the county’s Republican Party, heaven forbid.
Not that two months was anything more than an arbitrary and capricious amount of time and certainly not a length of weeks or months that anybody, any researcher anywhere had proven to be the time necessary ‘to cure’ such a Republican saint of his fatherly wrongdoings. It was just that there wasn’t any more time left that she could keep him down there and, still, keep everything about why he was down there a secret, too! Time for Detanimod’s guardianship of the Truth had run out and so Juggern Aut Misein Edinsmaier had gravitated back on up and in to the main family household with Mother‑of‑All Detanimod watching so closely and carefully. And, for certain, no one anywhere saying squat about it all. Just like Herry’s Rolodex card had stated, “No one’s ever said anything about this though." A really, really Brightest Red Elephant in the Room, but hey, perfect blindness. And an even more perfect muteness. And by so many!—by so many perfectly sighted and perfectly hearing persons who, at any time otherwise, were always, always most capable of long‑winded and very opinionated orations! But—of course: on any other subject matter! than this one!
Sure, speculation on my part you say all of this incestuous familial interaction is. Maybe.
But I believe it to be what happened. And, worse, why it had happened. No one has ever denied it. Not that I could actually bring it up anywhere without the telephone going dead from hang‑ups or from someone slamming the door behind them as they made a very rapid exit—after being asked about this time in the life of the Edinsmaier Family Household. It’s what happened. It is what it is. It’s real. Like it. Or not. And the madam is dead so Detanimod won’t be getting better nor be able to tell me “in the spring” after all, will she?
Yet here it all was again – written down into Herry’s Rolodex.
The Truemaier Boys were more than raptly still in front of that flat tube. I closed the dust cover nauseated. So, so sick this all was. Again. Above all, I did not want Herod to see me hurl into his toilet. I managed to maneuver myself past Mirzah, Zane and Jesse and exit the unit’s doorway just in time to see Herry coming up the hall wresting some of that stuff of his from the Toyota with him. I passed him mumbling something about the next Sunday night and seeing the Boys back at Othello Drive at that time and ran to my Shitbox Dodge for temporary shelter. And an old, crumpled grocery bag there. I puked into it. No one ever knew but me. Let alone, why. Certainly none of that building’s other tenants slowly filing out as they made their way to their cars in that same parking lot. And to their usual Friday night of savory fun … out.
“Tell me with whom you walk, and I will tell you who you are.” Or, grope. Or, fuck. As in, “Tell me with whom ya’ fondle or fuck, and I’ll tell ya’ who ya’re.”
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So. When I, back on that fateful early June 1988 Monday night—late, late, at such a very late hour—had asked Herry to walk away and to only come back and walk the World over with me and the three Truemaier Boys when he had changed, Herry walked all right. But he had no intention then, nor ever, of coming back … changed. And probably, right then already, of ever coming back at all.
For he walked all right. Herod Edinsmaier continued square on the path he’d always been on. And, most of all, so wanted to stay on. And that course, the one of no‑change so that Herod Edinsmaier with his knowledge and his will could continue to be who it was he so desperately wanted to remain, led him right on into the grotesque and miscreant world of a trade in this country and in others known as lawyering. Lawyers. Attorneys. Barristers. Counselors. That last nomenclature, that one’s a hoot. A rather hearty guffaw, I’d say. ‘Counselor’!
Herry began, I would have to estimate nearly right away in June 1988, walking with that singular group of ‘civil counselor’ known as family law lawyers. I say “right away” because from what I have since culled the time elapsed from then, that is from that early June, to when I received notice absolutely meant that Herry would have had to’ve walked into a lawyer’s office almost the very next June day right after I told him he, the way he was, had to leave us and he’d walked out, gladly and most happily of his own free will, of Othello Drive.
Though I have no regrets whatsoever for telling Herry to go away from the Truemaier Boys and me in order to change himself, I had, unknowingly at the time, just given him exactly that for which he had been searching. A way out. A way out even from that very recently acquired piece of forested, bachelor‑pad property he so coveted. But. Most importantly, a way out with face saved!
This particular way out would look, for all of time, like I, Legion True, am the villainess and the evil home‑wrecker. After all, ‘twas I the one who’d shoved him out that front Othello Drive door, wasn’t I? This, too, I have since caught on, is a very tried and true method used by many, many Jacks wanting to skip out either the front or the back and leave their lovers: Get caught and, in doing so, force the issue so that she will have no dignity nor integrity left unless she calls for his ousting. Yet no one else is the wiser nor has a clue nor gives a damn about her dignity or her integrity. They will only see that she, not he, busted up the family. And that is exactly what Herry wanted seen. And got.
I was played that June 1988 day like an angel’s harp bringing the mighty fine and pillared doctor the fresh swell of the melody matching his much‑anticipated freedom. Out Dr. Herod Edinsmaier walked and right onto his own continuing and well‑worn trail; this time, though, that path of his took Herod first and straightaway to legal counsel. This late spring beeline of Herry’s set into motion a monster unstoppable. But he knew that it would. That, after all, is exactly what Herry had wanted. And got.
I was busy with the three Boys’ new school year, of course, and had just returned home from the same ol’, same ol’ morning foray in the Shitbox wagon to the southeast edge of town where I’d dropped them all off for their academic day at Kate Mitchell School. It was the second one of the school week, Tuesday, 04 October 1988.
The Boys should have been bouncy and wowed by their particular previous Saturday and Sunday with Herry. That immediately past weekend they all had been somewhat freed from that horrid, cramped space which Herry called his ‘home’ because he had taken them all to Williamsburg to visit Grandpa AmTaham and Grandma Mehitable. As they had had some space to run and to be free in Grandpa’s and Grandma’s yard contiguous, as it was, to the town’s park with pond‑fishing and playground equipment, they should have—if usual—still been zoomed by the Tuesday following. But they weren’t. They were not. They were, instead, the most subdued individuals I could have strapped into three car seats that morning; and I was still thinking this on my commute home alone. My sons were not at all the same effervescent kids that they should have been, the sons whom I knew.
There was a definite reason for the Truemaier Boys’ anti‑cataclysmic spirit at the start of this specific week. Jesse, Zane and Mirzah had returned after that last weekend; and Herry, on their six heels, had followed them all into the house ordering me to come to the den, his favorite room of his bachelor pad, because he had something to tell me. The wide open and diffusive space of the kitchen with his and my sitting around the table, a most usual place where families collect for meetings with serious agenda, would not do. Our gathering there would have been too neutral a setting for Herry, I later speculated, and thus far too friendly—like to Legion True.
The early evening it was of this Sunday, the second day of October, around about 6 pm; and Dr. Herod Edinsmaier wanted to inform me where he himself inside that Othello house was most physically comfortable nestled deep, as he was, in that brown barrel chair and holding Zephyr, a rather neutrally poised Truemaier as the cat he was, … wanted to inform me of what he’d already had the unmitigated and controlling effrontery to tell Zane, Jesse, Mirzah, Mehitable and AmTaham—before telling me: I was being divorced. Notice to me formally, he’d been counseled and thus said in his utmost orthodox and punctilious pathologist’s voice with all three Truemaier Boys lined up alongside him yet so silenced on their piano bench, would be forthcoming the following Wednesday so now that I had been made aware at last, that was that and I should now know to be expecting such a written notification when it arrived. All of this profundity uttered to me by Dr. Herod Edinsmaier with not one time, no less of course, Herry’s using my first name, Legion. All simply stated in Taker Herry‑Daddee’s aprovechar, always‑a‑teacher mode to that ubiquitous, disgusting and loathed, bloody cunt of DEhumanness, “You.”
That said then, he undid his crossed legs, tossed Zephyr off his lap, up and left. Out that front door. Gone. Escape! True Freedom! O o o o – E e e e!
So. The whole “Let’s all go to Grandma Mehitable’s and play” spiel had been just another mother‑fucking. Another ruse and not at all for the Truemaier Boys’ wide open and diffusive spaces in which to run had their BioDaddee Herry Edinsmaier gone off to the west edge of Williamsburg but to connivingly position himself there in order to slam Mehitable and AmTaham before my even finding out. Classic escapist, off‑the‑hook cowardice and, as well, the slyly and as classically standard “I, the Man, will continue to fuck her, the Cunt. She is nothing ... nothing but a little child cunt; she has no Voice of her own. I, the Man, get to do all of ... her ... talking.”
“ ... and not a Vessel for the Law,” Buddha said of Woman, of Woman’s Body. “Not only can I zap her of any strength and power that that Cunt might put together but I’ll do it in front of her own frickin’ kin, too! her kids and her folks! ‘fore she’s the wiser, ‘fore she’s even had a chance to take another bloody, mother‑fucking Breath! Gotcha, Bitch!”
I was now again agape this Tuesday school morning while pondering a replay of this past Sunday night and remembering my initial and absolutely stunned and numb reaction to Herry’s countenance and commandment—when the front door knocker went off in the most clamoring of manners. I jolted up out of this kitchen’s study in pineapples, turned around to shut off the fire under the water and went to the front room’s window to check out the source of the noise at my door: a fat‑bellied, white man of medium height in a scruffy, dull dark brown suit, white shirt and dark tie holding a briefcase and loose papers in his hands. I called out from behind that window’s drapes, “Who are you? What do you want with us?” I wanted to sound like there were many people present in this particular household on this particular weekday morning should he be here to try something funny or nefarious. Women all over the World, for their own and their children’s safekeeping, have to do stupid machinations like this one nearly all of the time, every single day. And, for sure, every single night—whether successful or not they be at taking it, Their Night, back …
The burly guy gave me his name, but I don’t remember it. Richard Something‑or‑other maybe.
Then he bellowed back at me, “Your husband sent me today.”
However, it was Tuesday. Because it wasn’t Wednesday I was suddenly left thinking, “O?!” And, instead, out of my mouth yelled, “Well, if that’s true, then what’s my husband’s name?!”
“Dr. Herod Edinsmaier, Ma’am!” he answered still gruffly and still grouchy‑like, not at all trying to warm me up to him—which was working. I wasn’t made the least bit toasted by this beast standing and shouting at my front door. “Come’n, Ma’am. Open the door. I haven’t got all day, and your husband wants you to have these papers. That’s all I’m here for. To give you these papers. You don’t even have to sign for ‘em. He just wants you to have ‘em. I have ID if that’s what you’re after.”
I did open the door, then quickly reached for the lock on it on the screen door handle securing it. Through the screen he, indeed, had ready to show me a business card stating on it someone’s name and agency—presumably his, of course, although I never did know that for sure. The card stated that he was So‑and‑So, a private investigator; and a company’s name was also on it. “Ma’am, just … just open the door and take these papers! I promise I’ll leave you alone. I’ll turn right around, and you’ll never see me again.”
A private investigator? I had never had business ever before with such a person. A private investigator. I was really stupefied. I opened that bachelor‑pad portal and took the papers he thrust at me. And he did as he had promised: turned right around and strode off toward the driveway without even as much as a “Good. Thanks. Bye.” He just shoved the papers at me who, I’m sure, resembled to him a wordless idiot and turned around and split.
True it was, too; I never did see nor hear of him again. But I have always remembered this sunless morning and that puny‑personalitied private investigator’s visit to my Othello Drive door. The only time ever—before or since, as a matter of fact—that I have had ‘dealings’ with such a person, a private investigator. A regular William Conrad‑looking type of a guy he’d been, only mean‑sounding and mean‑acting, maybe even truly mean‑spirited. Not at all like the kind private detective character that television’s Conrad once played on that screen.
Back to the kitchen I took those papers and fixed that cup of black tea I’d earlier put on hold. I didn’t know it yet, but the blacker the better I was going to need that tea to be. Black was to be the overall color of my day at home alone sitting at my little kitchen table in my own wee World—and of any upcoming day, for that matter, for just the longest time to come.
I opened the small batch of papers shrouded in purplish‑tinged, deep aquamarine cardstock to read that this day, Tuesday, 04 October 1988, I had just been served. I, Legion True, Respondent, the documents called me, was being divorced by one Doctor Herod Edinsmaier, Petitioner, those same papers made sure to entitle him.
But not also me, of course. Of course. Not also me as the so similarly entitled Doctor Legion True. Of course.
And he, The Petitioner, an appellation I was about to hear over and over and over again for just the longest time to come as well was now bringing this action to the fore by way of his legal counsel, Mr. Shindy Scheisser, whose address read somewhere in the downtown Des Moines area, that Capitol’s same one which takes into its environ on any particular working weekday a passel of such Empty Suits.
Breathing alone I received this news. Official news it was, too. More or less like one comes into the World. Even though there may be one’s mother and other attendants present, one still comes kicking and screaming into existence most alone. As was the wisp of a person at this particular kitchen’s table on this particular early autumn’s morning … me, Legion True.
Calculating from the moment that Herry had exited this same front door and gone off to change, or I’d been so silly a dolt as to think that he actually had had intentions to try to, to the moment that this employee of Mr. Scheisser’s, this prickish private dick, had arrived at this same front entryway of mine serving up proceedings papers, it became crystally clear to me in a hurry that Herry hadn’t wasted any time at all in getting himself off to an attorney’s office to begin this dissolving action. Herod hadn’t wasted any of it by, say, going to a mind‑type counselor or to a behavioral addictions‑type counselor. Not even to a spiritual‑type, priest‑like counselor. Or, some such therapist.
No. O no. Hell no! Herry had, right directly, sought out a lawyer, an attorney, that kind of counselor—the kind that legally, the heavens know, gets one’s married self free. Most probably if there’d been any other type of counseling, it had come from that similarly addicted buddy of his, Varry Wussamai, whom Herry called his sponsor. And his, the advice of Varry W’s wholly independent and uncommitted self, would have been the only other counsel for which Herry would have gone.
Because. What else for? Acceptance. Acceptance and approval of what Herry had planned to do all along. Just as soon as I came through with his … face‑saving way out! Which, of course, I most certainly had now done—just four short months earlier! With Ms. Li’s Why Am I Afraid to Tell You Who I Am pornography and with Dr. Herod Edinsmaier’s diarrheal diary of a Creighton University undergraduate’s debauched year of raunch‑relating. “Dime con quién andas y te diré quién eres.”
I tried to read as much of the papers as I could before beginning to gag and nearly strangling on the knot in my gullet that really was my cardiac muscle leaping up and out of my throat. What I do remember now of any of that morning and those white sheets covered up in some pissant shade of periwinkle teal was that they said something like I had around 20 days or so in which to respond, that I, too, had better get myself ‘legal counsel’ and set about putting together something a court could recognize as a litiginous (and not a … litigious …) reply to this said piece of mother‑fucking shit just served up to me. I should put together something that would resemble a response to my entire life, the life which had now just been served up to me by some strange buffoon in brown while I was by myself alone on an October Tuesday morning as the falling‑apart, mother‑fucking chronology of shit that it was.
And this? This I would, therefore, do. Soon.
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CAST OF CHARACTERS
Dr. Legion True: One Fucked Mother
Dr. Herod (Herry) Edinsmaier: Legion’s husband/Sperm Source [“re: I am snide” backwards]
Jesse Truemaier: Legion’s son
Zane Truemaier: Legion’s son
Mirzah Truemaier: Legion’s son
AmTaham True: Legion’s father [Mahatma backwards]
Mehitable True: Legion’s mother [Me hit-able—i.e. she was abusive]
Ardys and Endys: Legion’s sisters [names backwards]
Sterling: Legion’s brother [her mother’s planned name of next son (who never came)]
Mi Sprision O'Revinnoco: Herry’s sister [misprision: concealing knowledge of treason/O'Revinnoco = O'Connivero backwards]
Juggern Aut Misein Edinsmaier: Legion’s father-in-law [juggernaut; aut = 0; misein = “to hate (misogyny)”]
Detanimod Edinsmaier: Legion’s mother-in-law [dominated backwards]
Fannie Issicran McLive: fawning enabler of ex [narcissi(st) and Mc(Evil) backwards]
Legion’s Friends: Yanira, Stormy, Lynda, László, Jane, Kincaid, Joseph, Sheryl
Legion’s Best Friends: Ms Grace and Dr Lionel Portia
Wende: = Legion's friend after divorce [committed suicide due to Custody Crisis]
Jim Cornball: Herry’s acquaintance from AA and realtor
Loser Lorn: Insurance agent referred by Cornball
Judge Harley Butcher: Family Court judge
Judge Sol Wacotler Seizor: Family Court judge
Judge Barry Crowrook: Appellate Court judge
Judge Pansy Shawshank: Appellate Court judge
Jazzy Jinx: Legion’s Family Court lawyer who sold her out
Shindy Scheisser: Herry’s lawyer [shindy = noisy; scheisser = German for shithead]
Li Zhang: Herry’s Aussie affair
Dr Freddie Goldstein & Ella: Herry’s colleague and wife
Mick: = Herry's acquaintance from high school; best man [not in Herry’s life after that as he had no true friends]
Varry Wussamai: Herry's AA sponsor (not a real friend) [I am a wuss backwards]
David Humes: nursing student; classmate of Legion's, y1968 - y1971, New York City
Edmund Silver: Legion's boyfriend pre-Herry
Braemore St: where Legion and her family lived, y1983 - y1986
Havencourt condominium: Legion's Ames apartment; after separation
Zephyr: tabby cat of Zane's, Mirzah's, Jesse's [pronounced “Zay – fear”]
Author: Dr. Blue, aka Ofherod, BSN, DVM, PhD = Commander Edinsmaier's Handmaid (Commander reiamsnidE's Handmaid)
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