Family court judges often give child custody to males that request it . It doesn't matter if they're abusive. Patriarchy dominates family court. Children are considered male property. Women have no enforceable rights in family court. Mothers cannot protect their children. Children deserve protection. Family court judges falsely deem loving mothers unfit. Women and their children are frequently separated. Family court judges enable fathers to alienate children from their mothers. Women must continue to join together and demand a new system. A jury would give women and children a chance at justice. It would help prevent the grief that child alienation causes so many mothers. Family court must end.
My first thought is to say that “she is being kept away from her kids, and he’s turned everyone against her via sadistic manipulation, including her children.” Something like that, but I get your point.
I have found that ppl just think I'm nuts (aiding his narrative) if I actually tell them the truth like that. Unfortunately, if I downplay it a lil and use alienation, they can at least potentially believe that something like that could happen.
Seeing Virginia's plight is just devastating. I barely survived it and frankly, I wasn't interested in surviving it back then. I still don't have a relationship with my children after many years. My ex-husband still follows me online, and there's nothing I can do about it either. I sure would love to see Virginia triumph.
They are reporting that she committed suicide, and honestly where exactly was she supposed to escape to? So maybe. But to me, she was as good as murdered by the intelligence community for publicly calling them out for using American CHILDREN to further their political and military gains. I'm really heartbroken about it. I'm so angry that after all the promises to release the files they didn't. And we all know why too, but better not say it out loud.
Thank you for this article! Lisa Goodpaster (author) on TikTok explains that Bob Hoffman in 1967 described Parental Alienation in his book, “Negative Love Syndrome,” Chapter 9, page 75. Abusive males with bruised egos will continue to use PA to gain custody as mine did (outlined in my book, “Dismantling Family Court Corruption, Why Taking The Kids Was Not Enough 2020). The judges are colluding and don’t care. Yes, Patriarchy may reach deep, but it’s pretty sad when female judges can’t think for themselves, are doing the same and don’t care either….
Women judges often sell mothers out to stay in the good graces of the Old Boys.
Your book wrongly characterizes the Custody Crisis and the use of parental alienation in family courts as gender neutral. There is only one thing happening in epidemic numbers and that is judges lying about mothers alienating and allowing the father to alienate--not vice versa. And the reason is systemic male entitlement. The system is designed to keep men in power in the family after divorce.
I’m sorry to hear the cycle of abuse continues for Virginia. My instinct would be to describe her as being withheld or kept away from her children. When I think of alienation I initially think of psychological manipulation and not necessarily physical separation.
Can you please tell us more about how Gardner is not the creator of parental alienation syndrome? I’ve heard this so many times everywhere I had come to accept it as fact. Thank you in advance!
The short answer: Gardner was an expert witness who testified for fathers who’d sexually abused their kids. His would proffer his opinion that it was common for mothers to coach children to report sexual abuse to alienate them from the father. Judges have always known this is absurd, but this perspective aided in the agenda to cover up the father's abuse and switch custody to him.
Gardner did not create parental alienation. He just used a concept that is real and has been around forever in order to make money off of molester fathers--and he made a lot. The onus needs to be squarely on judges and the system that enables them to falsely accuse mothers, not Gardner or the term parental alienation.
Gardner was also a pedophile who ultimately stabbed himself to death, as confirmed by his autopsy report — a grim testament to just how “mentally stable” he was. If I, or anyone else, were to propose adopting the writings of cult leader Jim Jones as the official manual for CEOs to manage their employees, it would be rightfully rejected and condemned. Yet somehow, the perverse and twisted theories born from the filthy mind of a known pedophile and psychopath have been embraced as the gold standard for evaluating child abuse allegations and determining child custody in Family Court — and we’re expected to accept that as normal.
Yes, yes, yes thank you for saying this! It has driven me nuts how much division there is about this. It is the abusers next 'logical (to them)' step; to then alienate our babes from us. And they can do this no matter how little or much time they have with them. I have been on both sides of this with all 4 of my babes. To attempt to describe to others - who are already questioning just regular abuse (and my response to it) - has been brutal. I have HAD to resort to using the term 'alienate' bc that is my only CHANCE of being heard. I have felt like it's just a distraction, too and... well... say someone uses the term rape in a twisted, deceitful way.. it doesn't mean we just rid the term entirely, right? We've got to work with what we have, we've got bigger battles!
Family court judges often give child custody to males that request it . It doesn't matter if they're abusive. Patriarchy dominates family court. Children are considered male property. Women have no enforceable rights in family court. Mothers cannot protect their children. Children deserve protection. Family court judges falsely deem loving mothers unfit. Women and their children are frequently separated. Family court judges enable fathers to alienate children from their mothers. Women must continue to join together and demand a new system. A jury would give women and children a chance at justice. It would help prevent the grief that child alienation causes so many mothers. Family court must end.
My first thought is to say that “she is being kept away from her kids, and he’s turned everyone against her via sadistic manipulation, including her children.” Something like that, but I get your point.
Yes but he's alienating them from her is so much simpler...
And you can do both. It's just not good to be prohibited from using alienation.
I have found that ppl just think I'm nuts (aiding his narrative) if I actually tell them the truth like that. Unfortunately, if I downplay it a lil and use alienation, they can at least potentially believe that something like that could happen.
Seeing Virginia's plight is just devastating. I barely survived it and frankly, I wasn't interested in surviving it back then. I still don't have a relationship with my children after many years. My ex-husband still follows me online, and there's nothing I can do about it either. I sure would love to see Virginia triumph.
Me too. I had no idea. She was being abused at home by her husband. It just breaks my heart.
They are reporting that she committed suicide, and honestly where exactly was she supposed to escape to? So maybe. But to me, she was as good as murdered by the intelligence community for publicly calling them out for using American CHILDREN to further their political and military gains. I'm really heartbroken about it. I'm so angry that after all the promises to release the files they didn't. And we all know why too, but better not say it out loud.
Thank you for this article! Lisa Goodpaster (author) on TikTok explains that Bob Hoffman in 1967 described Parental Alienation in his book, “Negative Love Syndrome,” Chapter 9, page 75. Abusive males with bruised egos will continue to use PA to gain custody as mine did (outlined in my book, “Dismantling Family Court Corruption, Why Taking The Kids Was Not Enough 2020). The judges are colluding and don’t care. Yes, Patriarchy may reach deep, but it’s pretty sad when female judges can’t think for themselves, are doing the same and don’t care either….
Women judges often sell mothers out to stay in the good graces of the Old Boys.
Your book wrongly characterizes the Custody Crisis and the use of parental alienation in family courts as gender neutral. There is only one thing happening in epidemic numbers and that is judges lying about mothers alienating and allowing the father to alienate--not vice versa. And the reason is systemic male entitlement. The system is designed to keep men in power in the family after divorce.
I am in Perth WA. I will send you an email now - if you could reach out I can help.
I’m sorry to hear the cycle of abuse continues for Virginia. My instinct would be to describe her as being withheld or kept away from her children. When I think of alienation I initially think of psychological manipulation and not necessarily physical separation.
Can you please tell us more about how Gardner is not the creator of parental alienation syndrome? I’ve heard this so many times everywhere I had come to accept it as fact. Thank you in advance!
The short answer: Gardner was an expert witness who testified for fathers who’d sexually abused their kids. His would proffer his opinion that it was common for mothers to coach children to report sexual abuse to alienate them from the father. Judges have always known this is absurd, but this perspective aided in the agenda to cover up the father's abuse and switch custody to him.
Gardner did not create parental alienation. He just used a concept that is real and has been around forever in order to make money off of molester fathers--and he made a lot. The onus needs to be squarely on judges and the system that enables them to falsely accuse mothers, not Gardner or the term parental alienation.
Gardner was also a pedophile who ultimately stabbed himself to death, as confirmed by his autopsy report — a grim testament to just how “mentally stable” he was. If I, or anyone else, were to propose adopting the writings of cult leader Jim Jones as the official manual for CEOs to manage their employees, it would be rightfully rejected and condemned. Yet somehow, the perverse and twisted theories born from the filthy mind of a known pedophile and psychopath have been embraced as the gold standard for evaluating child abuse allegations and determining child custody in Family Court — and we’re expected to accept that as normal.
Yes, yes, yes thank you for saying this! It has driven me nuts how much division there is about this. It is the abusers next 'logical (to them)' step; to then alienate our babes from us. And they can do this no matter how little or much time they have with them. I have been on both sides of this with all 4 of my babes. To attempt to describe to others - who are already questioning just regular abuse (and my response to it) - has been brutal. I have HAD to resort to using the term 'alienate' bc that is my only CHANCE of being heard. I have felt like it's just a distraction, too and... well... say someone uses the term rape in a twisted, deceitful way.. it doesn't mean we just rid the term entirely, right? We've got to work with what we have, we've got bigger battles!
Finally some facts and truth, about this courages woman’s life.
I knew the suicide story, did not sound right.
She had a difficult life, where she was used and abused by men over and over again.
What the fuck!!
Men need to fix themselves!!
Pam Bondi: Google "Polygraph test of Ella Gareeva"
Thank you for this group. It often feels like the fight is lonely and all on my shoulder. I’m so grateful!