Family Court Judge Who Abused His Kids Cannot Be Named or "Gendered"

Why Would a Gag Order Include Gender?

A senior Family Court judge in London issued a gag order this week on a case involving a fellow judge and his partner who abused their adopted children.

Judge Lucy Morgan Theis’ order states that neither parent can be named, which is not uncommon. It’s supposedly to protect the identities of child victims. In practice, it is usually more to protect the abuser father’s identity and reputation than the children.

Judge Lucy Morgan Theis

But strangely, her order also states that the parents cannot be “gendered”. In reality lingo this means their biological sex cannot be identified by journalists, meaning they cannot use gender-identifying “pronouns”. The parents asked this be done.

Incredibly, Judge Theis literally ordered journalists to use the gender-neutral nouns and pronouns “they/their/them” for each parent instead of “he/him/his” or she/her/hers”, which would reveal whether they were male or female. This is unprecedented.

And absurd.

Apparently, both parents came down with a sudden case of gender confusion after getting caught abusing their kids? Right.

Some reporters have gone along with this farcical use of the substitute pronouns, while others refuse and have chosen to simply use X and Y for them.

Although this gender-barring order has made national and international news, no reporter has ventured to talk about its absurdity or muse about the possible reason for it.

So we will.

Spoiler alert: It’s obviously being done to hide their sex.

But first, the sad story of the abuse of the children—and their escape.

THE PARENTS

The parents are a judge and a teacher. They have been together for 30 years. Nowhere does it say they were ever married. They are just referred to as a “couple”.

The judge is almost surely a male since facts about the case point to it and one brave journalist included this stock photo in her coverage of the debacle. So we will break rank and use male pronouns for him. We will just call his partner the teacher.

The judge practices in Family Court. He specializes in children’s cases, which makes it all the worse. And his partner is a primary school teacher, which makes this case beyond horrible. But neither is surprising. Child abusers often have professions involving authority over children.

About 20 years ago, they began adopting children from foster care. They adopted five kids in all, two of whom are now adults. It is unknown what the children’s ages were when they were adopted.

They were all boys.

In January of last year, the two youngest boys, then 14 and 9 years old, ran away to where their older sibling was being fostered. This incited a new CPS case in which the boys bravely reported a litany of physical, sexual, and emotional abuse and neglect by their adoptive parents.

The older sibling had also disclosed abuse, which is why he was placed in care years ago. Despite his brave escape and disclosures, nothing was done to protect his little brothers.

THE ABUSE

The physical abuse included regular assaults. The boys were often hit. Sometimes the teacher would smash the boys’ heads together. At least one time the teacher put him on the bottom bunk bed and beat him so hard his head banged the top bunk. One time, the teacher threw a laundry rack across the kitchen and shouted that he was “going to f**king kill this kid”.

One of them was forced to eat soap for using inappropriate language.

At least one of the boys was pretend drowned with his head held down the toilet. Waterboarding is a common strategy in organized abuse, used to terrify children into complicity and silence.

They were locked outside the house without shoes. They were made to stand against a wall as punishment. They were also regularly left alone overnight.

The boys were denied food and kept hungry. The parents placed a lock on the pantry to stop them from getting any food to eat.

The teacher pushed one of the boys hard up against a wall and strangled him. The boys had been made to wear shoes that were too small for them.

One of the boys disclosed the teacher would watch him showering and make him “soap up” all over his body. This was done under the guise of making sure he cleaned himself properly but was obviously sexual abuse. It was also said that he would hit the boys’ bare bottoms, which could also be sexual. That is the only sexual abuse reported on but the court and CPS may be covering up more, as they often do. Or the boys may not be able to disclose more due to threats, shame or fear.

The emotional abuse was bad too. The boys felt controlled through fear of punishment and abuse. They were threatened to be killed.

The teacher swore at them constantly. One of the boys is mixed race and he was regularly called racial slurs, including “black bastard” and the “N word”.

Judge Theis said the teacher was responsible for most of the abuse and the judge mostly just looked the other way, which is complicity.

THE COVER UP

After the boys bravely disclosed all this horrific abuse, the judge and teacher were criminally charged and the children officially taken into care.

Unsurprisingly, the charges against both were dismissed a few months later with no action taken. But they are not working as a teacher or judge anymore. It is unclear whether they were fired or just realized they would not be accepted back into the community.

However the child abuse case in Family Court remained active. The parents kept putting it off, whining that their mental health is not good because of the case, making themselves out to be the victims. They also complained about their financial situation and having lost their home because of the proceedings. Poetic justice for a Family Court judge to lose his home and have his finances ruined isn’t it?…

Journalists have been trying to get permission to report the names of the perpetrators for a while. They claim it is in the public interest to know who they are, especially since they both have worked with children. The teacher may have abused students, and the judge may have made bad custody rulings.

The justification for the gag order is supposedly to protect the children. The children initially said they wanted their parents to be named, so that was not a reasonable justification. However, they were apparently convinced by a court-appointed guardian [GAL] to change their minds and say they do not care whether they are named. Also, the parents do not want to have anything to do with the kids anymore.

That brings us to this week. Judge Theis says in her order that because the parents may want to someday reunify with the boys, they should not be named.

HYPOTHESIS FOR THE COVER UP

Now, anyone with half a brain can see this is a blatant cover-up protecting the parents and the Court. The journalists, representing the public, have given excellent reasons for these perpetrators being named and have blasted the judge for her gagging order.

Protecting a judge could be a reason in and of itself for barring names from being revealed. But the gender prohibition adds another layer to the cover up.

If the teacher is a woman, a court would never go to such lengths to cover up for her. There would be no problem saying the wife/teacher was the primary abuser and the husband/judge just looked on. Courts love to place blame on mothers.

So you probably guessed the hypothesis is that both the judge and teacher are men. They are a gay “couple” who never married, although gay marriage is legal in England.

They decided to adopt after being together for a while. They adopted five boys which is suspicious.

Many types of abuse the boys described are not typical of an abusive mother, such as the strangulation, brutal physical assaults, waterboarding, threats to kill, and sexual abuse. Remember, the older boy was 14 and a mother would not likely be physically capable of doing some of those things to a teenage boy.

If the Court allowed the naming or “gendering” of the teacher and judge, the public would know they are a gay couple adopting and abusing boys. This may give some pause to allowing gay men to adopt.

This is not about being gay; it is about being men. The vast majority of serious assaults and violence are perpetrated by men. The vast majority of sexual abuse is committed by men. So, it stands to reason that if you have two men running a household, it may not be as safe as if there is a mother there to keep an eye on things and protect the children.

The revelation to the public that these perpetrators are gay men would not look good for the judges involved, the CPS that failed them, the judiciary, the family court system, not to mention the gay community.

So the solution was to simply prohibit the revelation of their sex, using the newly accepted concept of “gender fluidity”. How convenient.

Anyway, this is one explanation for the unique ruling.

Let us know what you think in the comments and if you know who the teacher and/or judge is email: womenscoalitionintl@gmail.com. [See below for the update after we were contacted by many people.]

TAKEAWAY

There is just one simple Takeaway here, but an important one (the usual).

This judge, who abused his own children, was presiding over Family Court cases. Who knows how many children he caused to be abused with bad custody rulings?

This case supports that no judge, male or female, should have the power to decide custody. Humans are fallible, especially people in positions of power, and too often act in their own interests rather than children.

Further, the Family Court system itself was created specifically so judges have much more power than in a regular civil court. This includes the appointment of insider professionals to aid in the agenda of keeping men empowered over children after divorce.

That means the only effective solution to the Custody Crisis is to remove custody cases completely from the Family Court and CPS system. They need to be heard and treated as regular civil cases—open to the public.

While not perfect, since no system is, it will provide more due process and equal protection for women. And this will result in children’s best interests being upheld much more often.

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UPDATE

Following is reliable information submitted to Women’s Coalition by mothers in the UK who are victims of the Custody Crisis. This image is being shared around social media.

The parents are gay men. The judge is Daniel Dodd, no longer a judge. He headed a family law team.

The teacher is Peter Dain. He worked at Ysgol Hiraddug primary school. He ran for Parliament on the Reform/Brexit ticket three times and lost.

The two children are the nephews of Peter. It is unclear why they were taken away from their mother and given to their gay, abusive uncle, or if she can get them back now.

The cover up goes deeper than Judge Theis, as speculated. The second most senior judge, Judge Keehan, wrote the judgment barring the identifying of the parents as gay men (and everything else) for Judge Theis.

Firstly, judges are supposed to make their own judgments. But what’s worse is that Judge Keehan had presided over some of Daniel Dodd’s cases. A complaint has been filed with the Judicial Commission.

But the throughline remains: judges cover up child abuse not only for each other but for fathers in general.

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IN OTHER NEWS

CHAPTER 28: PART 5: NEXT SECTION IS OUT!

CHAPTER 28: The Opera: Act III; Pt. 5 [cont. 3]

Legion sneaks visits with her boys for an entire week in various places around the new town five states away from Iowa to which Herry has legally kidnapped them. They are all so happy to see each other again after 18 whole months with no contact whatsoever—not even calls or letters.

Legion cries and cries on the way home, knowing she will not see or connect with her boys for a long time. Herry has succeeded in his revenge M.O. to keep her precious children completely away from her—with the enabling of Family Court, of course, and the complicity of a wicked second wife, whom he married for that very purpose...

In the last section, Legion arrives in West Virginia and dons her well-prepped disguise as “Sam”. She finds the perfect place for a clandestine meeting with her boys…if only she can find them.

CHAPTER 28 of Mother-Fucking: The Saga of One Fucked Mother begins with Act III, Part 4 of “The Opera” from Book 3. The Opera has three Acts with five Parts—one for each of the three Family Court and two Appellate Court trials. Chapter 28 covers all of Act III: Part 4: the third Family Court trial, and Part 5: the second Appellate trial. This is a long chapter and will be published in newsletter-sized bites.

Dr. Blue’s novel is based on her own experience of the Custody Crisis. It uniquely conveys how Family Court judges are “mother-fucking” women—a form of systemic oppression—as protagonist Legion is systematically and methodically deprived of her children and money and reduced to “one fucked mother”.

Chapters are stand-alone interesting so you can begin reading anywhere. A Cast of Characters follows to help readers at any point. All published chapters are included in the Section: “Saga of One F**ked Mother” accessible on the top bar of the home page of Women’s Coalition News & Views. Sequential chapters are emailed out every Wednesday so make sure to subscribe if you haven’t yet!

TEASERS

“Mom … Mooo - om! Hi! Hi! You’re here! Wow! Zane said you were here––and you … you are! You’re here!” 13½-year-old Mirzah hugged and hugged and hugged my neck, and I was so trying not to cry in front of them all.

…We four sat on the stone bench and the grassiness out just in front of it and talked and talked and talked and talked…O, they were so … well, so big! All of them teenagers!

…the majority of fathers’ moveaways are, indeed, revenge-taking, plain and pure, “We have to gut the bitch in the belly … but it will get you, Daddee, what ya’ want: the Crazy Pussy … mother-fucked!”

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