The Custody Crisis: Why It's Happening & How We Can End It
“The Custody Crisis: Why It's Happening & How We Can End It” is a powerpoint presentation that describes the nature of the Custody Crisis and a solution for stopping it. This is the first time it’s been featured on the Women’s Coalition News and Views Substack platform, but it has gotten nearly 50K views on Facebook and 5K on Youtube.
If you’re a new mother to the Crisis and Coalition, hopefully this video will help you understand that the reason you lost custody was not your fault, not because you did anything wrong or something you didn’t do right. It was not because you didn’t have money for an attorney and your ex did. It was not because your ex had connections and you didn’t. Watch the video for an in-depth explanation of the real reason…
If you’ve already seen this video, you might want to check it out again and start a discussion with other mothers and friends and family about the discrimination mothers face in Family Court when attempting to keep custody or protect their children. Activism can play an important role in dealing with and healing from Family-Court-induced trauma.
IN A NUTSHELL
WHAT THE CRISIS IS
The Custody Crisis is the epidemic of judges switching custody of children from good, loving mothers to controlling, abusive and self-serving fathers. On the other hand, there is no epidemic of judges switching custody from good, loving fathers to controlling, abusive and self-serving mothers.
Therefore, the crisis is a gendered issue: a women’s issue.
HOW THE CRISIS IS HAPPENING
Custody Crisis cases follow a documented pattern in which judges use many of the same tactics. Some of the most common are:
JUDGES:
appoint custody evaluators, attorneys for children, mental health professionals, mediators, and others who steer the case to the father
discredit women’s and children’s reports of abuse
falsely find mothers to be lying, alienating and mentally ill
appoint therapists to coerce children to recant/be silent about abuse
allow fathers to alienate children from mothers
punish women by placing them in contempt and jailing them
oppress women by getting the District Attorney to file criminal charges
silence women by issuing gag orders that keep the public in the dark
WHY THE CRISIS IS HAPPENING
Family Court is the main staging grounds for the Old Boy Network [OBN] agenda of continuing age-old male power and entitlement in the family, i.e. persisting patriarchy. Although, CPS, law enforcement, district attorneys and criminal courts also uphold this male prerogative and often aid and abet Family Court judges.
Judges are able to switch custody to fathers who don’t deserve it or who are abusive because Family Court is designed so they can disregard facts, evidence, research, law, and rights. And they can make false findings that mothers a are lying, alienating or mentally ill. In other words, judges can deceive, distort and outright lie and there is no way to them accountable.
HOW WE CAN END THE CRISIS
In order to end the crisis, the core cause—systemic male entitlement—must be eliminated. The only way to do that is to implement a new system in which judges do not have the power to entitle and empower fathers by giving them custody.
Custody cases should be removed from Family Court and heard in a regular civil court with a jury. This is the only way to get a fair trial and that is the least society can do to ensure children’s safety and well-being.
NOTE: The local coalitions referred to have been on hold due to covid, but will resume sometime in the near future. Feel free to sign up at: WomensCoalitionInternational.org. In the meantime, we continue to raise awareness about the crisis through social media and this Substack platform.
The Women’s Coalition is documenting two kinds of cases to support our contention that judges are deliberately disregarding and covering up abuse. Please fill out a form if you have been impacted. You may remain anonymous.
Cases in which judges have disregarded or concealed evidence of sexual abuse:
And cases in which judges have caused children to recant abuse and/or be alienated:
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And the ultimate punishment save for murder, is brainwashing the children to grow up to hate and alienate their own mothers, reabuse like we see all the time when women report any kind of crime against us/our kids, and indeed these are criminals who have been organized to keep men overpowering basically anyone they want if they have enough money or can offer up the mother of their children's money by dragging us into court. As for the district attorneys, worthless the lot of them, I'd like to see a comparative analysis of so-called criminal behavior of women who end up behind bars as opposed to the men who walk like my ex did every time he broke into my house and broke my body which ended me up in the hospital three different times. Not a night in jail passed the initial soft arrest where he bailed himself out every time and then plea bargained down to basically what constituted a nothing but a speeding ticket. And like I've reported time and again, he didn't just do this to me, he was a violent entitled, serial offender who, after we split up, got a teenager pregnant when he was getting a license to practice marriage and family counseling when he wasn't even allowed to see our child and the courts knew his children by his first marriage had been taken away from him and his first wife when they were quite small, for the same kinds of crime. Of course after marrying a concubine, his long time fantasy, he fought for and got custody of that child having someone to do all the child care and when he died he didn't leave that woman anything but kicked out of their house. This is excellent. I don't think you've left anything out. I like the stern and straightforward tone of it. Thank you for creating it for the rest of us and the ones who will come after. This has got to end. The generational trauma inflicted on our kids because abusers can't take NO for an answer and the courts can't either, has ruined this country's soul has this country has been known to do to vulnerable folks in its very recent past, in other sadistic, unforgivable ways. The taxpayer needs to know about this racket under no uncertain terms just like you've spelled it out, where their money is being thrown around and who to which includes the lawyers, especially the ones in robes. So many wounded, innocent people who can never fully heal in this lifetime.
Please, Mothers, STOP and L I S T E N TO Ms Dumas h e r e. I am 74, lost my three birthed sons to a violent physician ( yes, an MD ) and tried through seven years' litigations ( district and appellate ) and ... ... seriously, 24 m a l e judges of the total of 25 of them with only one man and the one woman as appellate judges ruling in my favor. So I won them back. UNTIL ... ... WHAT Ms Dumas is eloquently stating but YOU MOTHERS ARE REFUSING TO GET IN TO YOUR BRAINS.
THUS: PATRIARCHY. MEN C A N, and WILL DO, WHAT THEY WANT TO KEEP " the Family " theirs / IN THEIR CONTROL.
WHERE I had won at 2:1 FOR me ? THAT ONE MALE JUDGE BROUGHT IN TWO OTHER MEN ( both of whom had NOT HEARD ONE WORD OF MY APPELLATE ARGUMENTS AND NEVER SEEN NOR HEARD FROM ME, NOW PRO SE ) .... BROUGHT IN TWO OTHER MEN SO THAT I " L E G A L L Y " NOW REMAINED ... ... L O S T: 3:2 NOW AGAINST ME. I NEVER SAW NOR SPOKE TO NOR TOUCHED MY BOYS AGAIN. LEGALLY.
I DID. ONLY because I DRESSED AS A MAN WITH MUSTOUCHE AND WIG AND DROVE A BEATER F I V E FUCKING STATES' DISTANCE AWAY. TO FIND THEM. AT WHERE THEY HAD BEEN, OVERNIGHT, ABSCONDED TO ... ... BY THE SPERM SOURCE. L E G A L L Y cuz of those MEN - JUDGES.
PATRIARCHY, Mothers. NOT $. NOT HIS $. NOT court officials' $. NOT " connections. " NONE of that. You, Mothers, simply have the wrong genitalia. YOU CANNOT E V E R WIN. AS FEMALES. UP AGAINST A MAN WHO FILES THAT HE " WANTS " THE KIDS. HE W I L L GET THEM. PERIOD.
SO.
J U R I E S. ONLY. ONLY JURIES ... ... EQUITABLE ONES ... ... equitably chosen - JURIES.
TO DECIDE CUSTODY of children. P E R I O D.
Just cuz YOU 'ld like there to NOT be the Patriarchy ANYMORE NOW. Say, for the last 40 to 50 years ?
THERE STILL IS The PATRIARCHY. AND the MAIN JOB OF ALL " FAMILY " " LAW " COURT JUDGES IS ... ... THEIR ACTUAL JOB IS ... ... to KEEP IN PLACE the PATRIARCHY. HOW ?
PER DR MILLETT'S p33, Sexual Politics / y1970: " The CHIEF INSTITUTION of the Patriarchy IS ... ...
the F A M I L Y. " THAT is how.
PLEASE, FOR MOTHERS' and CHILDREN'S SAKES, F I N A L L Y ... ... G E T THIS.
I AM OLD and fucking EXHAUSTED. TRYING TO MAKE YOU ALL G E T THIS. SO.
SO. JUST FUCKING LOOK AROUND. THEN, TRY and TELL ME THAT Ms Dumas and I are wrong.
LOOK th' 'ell AROUND YOU, Mothers.
Blue Maas
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