3 More Kids Murdered & 1 Attempted—Despite New "Safe Child" Laws
And: Announcing Our New Videocast: Custody Crisis Exposed!
Two fathers have murdered their children in less than two weeks—despite “Safe Child” laws in both states where the murders occurred. And a third father attempted to murder his son, but the boy miraculously survived.
On May 28th, 2-year-old Little Melody was murdered by her father in Florida.
On May 20th, 7-year-old Alex and 6-year-old Lydia were murdered by their father in Arizona.
On May 17th, 7-month-old baby Jaxson was shot multiple times by his father, also in Arizona, but survived.
Both Arizona and Florida have “Safe Child” laws. These laws are being widely promoted as the solution to the Custody Crisis. However, they made no difference in these recent rash of cases and have made little, if any, in the Custody Crisis overall.
We’ll discuss why that is, but first, these precious, lost children’s stories…
LITTLE MELODY
Mona left Little Melody’s father in March of last year due to his physical and emotional abuse.
Mona filed for sole custody, detailing the father’s anger issues, mental health issues, and use of illegal drugs. She reported that he had been violent with her and Melody—and also their dog, whom he had punched in the face in a fit of anger.
Mona made the supremely reasonable request, considering her ex’s abuse and anger issues that he take a parenting course and be restricted to supervised visitation—essentially an order for protection. She also asked for an evaluation and a Guardian ad Litem (not realizing GAL’s usually make things worse).
But the Family Court judge still granted the father unsupervised visits. Of course. He is the entitled man, after all. No matter that he is angry and vindictive.
Her ex picked Melody up for his court-ordered unsupervised visit on Tuesday, May 28th. A couple hours later he murdered her by cutting her throat. He is charged with first degree murder.
The judge knew he was dangerous.
LITTLE LYDIA & ALEX
After Hope told her abusive husband she was leaving him, he threatened to kill himself. He said this many times in front of Little Lydia and Alex, which must have been traumatic for them.
Hope obtained a protective order last October, reporting he was physically, emotionally and sexually abusive to her. She asked for his guns to be taken away. The order provided for this, as do all PO’s—but they were never taken.
Her ex violated the protective order by taking the kids out of school and by contacting her. No consequences. He called the police telling them he was having suicidal and homicidal thoughts and was placed on a psychiatric hold.
On May 1st, the judge lifted the protective order. Just weeks later, he murdered both children and committed suicide.
The judge knew he was dangerous.
LITTLE JAXSON
Shortly after Allie left her husband, he broke into her house and held her and Little Jaxson hostage. She managed to escape and went for help.
By the time help arrived, the father had shot Jaxson multiple times. He set the house on fire and shot himself.
Miraculously, Jaxson survived.
It is unclear whether there was an active custody case or if Allie had tried for protection. One thing that is clear, this is yet another case of a man murdering his child to get revenge on his ex. It is epidemic.
“SAFE CHILD” LAWS
Two years ago, the Violence Against Women Act [VAWA] was updated and reauthorized. It newly incorporated the “Keeping Children Safe from Family Violence” or “Kayden’s Law”. The purpose of this section is to protect children in custody cases. Because it is a federal law, it applies to all states. Mothers are free to use it in their arguments to the court and quote from it in their efforts to protect their children.
This law is based on the “Safe Child Act”, which has been promoted by the domestic violence/protective parent community for well over a decade as the cure for the Crisis. Laws named after murdered children based on this Act have sprouted up seemingly everywhere. The poor mothers of these murdered children are being misled into thinking that a law named after their child will make a difference.
The basis for all of these Safe Child laws is that children’s safety should be prioritized. That is ridiculous and redundant. That universal consensus is already embodied in the “best interests of the child” doctrine. Just the fact something so basic and universally accepted needs to be re-stated in the first place shows the real problem is with the system itself.
Another precept of these laws is that judges should be trained in domestic violence and child abuse. This is also ridiculous. However could these supposedly wise and highly educated beings recognize abuse if they did not have a three hour course on it? The proof that lack of judicial training is not the problem lies in the fact that judges routinely, deliberately disregard, minimize, and cover up abuse by fathers while falsely finding mothers to be abusive.
Related to that reform is part stating court-appointees should also be trained. But they, like judges, deliberately spin cases to the father and against the mother so as to abet in the custody switch. It has nothing to do with training or lack thereof.
Another tenet is that judges are supposed to make protective orders for children when necessary. Right. The problem with that is they make orders to match their false findings that the father is not abusive and the mother is.
Some of these laws now incorporate “parental alienation” additions that supposedly restrict judges’ use of the concept. While that may make it slightly more difficult for judges to perform the Great Custody Switch (which is why the fathers’ equal parenting groups oppose it), it won’t make a difference in the big picture or the long run. And any benefit from it is outweighed by the invalidating and disempowering of mothers who have been truly alienated from their children via Family Court. [Read more about this issue at Down the Parental Alienation Rabbit Hole.]
These laws sound good, which is why they are so popular with mothers.
But just think about it. Dive a bit deeper.
Do you really think the OBN [old boy network] is going to allow laws to be passed that would deprive men of their #1 most coveted entitlement post women’s lib: power over their ex and children after separation—and specifically the power to use kids as leverage to get revenge on her for leaving?
Of course not.
The very reason these laws sail through legislatures near and far is precisely because they will not make a difference. Judges are often rewarded by the Old Boys after they give kids to abusive fathers. Judges do not care as much about children’s safety as their own status and power.
Women need to understand that basic truth underlies all cases if we are to get anywhere in ending the Custody Crisis. Being misled into thinking Child Safety laws will make a difference in children murdered or abused just diverts from the real cause of the crisis and an effective solution.
TAKEAWAYS
Our last two columns have also covered children being murdered by fathers. Little Corey was abused to death: Mom Gets Justice for Son: Ex Convicted in "Treadmill Abuse Trial". And Little Rowan was murdered by his father via carbon monoxide poisoning: Another Child Murdered by a Vengeful Ex after Judge Orders Joint Custody. We focused on how judges were enabling fathers to wreak revenge on their ex by murdering the children.
In all cases, Safe Child laws were in place. In none of the cases did these laws make any difference.
Why?
Because laws are not the problem. [See Down the Rights & Laws Rabbit Hole for more in depth discussion on that.]
The real problem is Family Court judges having near-absolute power: the power to ignore and violate laws; the power to disregard, deny, and conceal abuse by fathers; and the power to falsely find women some version of “mad or bad”—all in order to facilitate the Great Custody Switch.
Getting diverted from this fundamental fact—that it is judicial power that is the core problem—and advocating for laws that don’t address that diverts us from taking action that will truly stop judges from taking and endangering our kids.
Join us at The Women’s Coalition where we are uniting to raise awareness about the real reason for the Crisis and fighting for the only effective solution: dismantle the Family Court system and demand cases be heard in a real civil court with a jury.
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IN OTHER NEWS
ANNOUNCING Our New Videocast: “Custody Crisis Exposed!”
Custody Crisis Exposed! is our new, upcoming videocast.
This unparalleled series will expose all the dirt on how Family Court judges are taking custody away from loving, primary-nurturing mothers and giving our precious children to abusive, violent, and self-serving exes.
The videocast will begin with a discussion about how judges are deeming women “mad or bad” in the quest to switch custody to the father.
You won’t get this kind of exposé anywhere else, so be sure and subscribe to our Youtube channel and you’ll be notified when each new episode is published.
NOTE: The only other playlist on our channel at this time is a project we did for ABC’s Dateline about a Custody Crisis case in which two teens went into hiding to escape their abusive father. 50 mothers made shorts of their Family Court nightmare and they were submitted to the producer. Long story short, it turned out to be a trick. The producer had already planned to discredit the mother and portray any mother who took her children into hiding as bad—and the father as the poor guy left behind. But these mothers’ stories live on anyway through having told it.
SISTERS IN SOLIDARITY
Our next Sisters in Solidarity forum will be this Saturday, June 15th at 1pm Pacific; 4pm Eastern; 8pm GMT; 9pm UTC; 7am Sydney, Australia.
If you’d like to join SIS, please fill out this form. More info here. You will receive an invitation to the zoom a few days before [check alternate inboxes].
CHAPTER 19 IS OUT!
“She and I Aren’t Really Married” is Chapter 19 of Mother-Fucking: The Saga of One Fucked Mother. [This chapter is too long for a newsletter so the second part will be posted next week.]
In this chapter, Legion is forced to endure a real car wreck of a summer road trip to Wisconsin with her abusive mother who harangues her about separating from Herry, as she views his status and money-making potential her ticket in old age. Legion has to constantly defend herself in front of her boys, much like with Herry, with whom her mother shares many personality defects. She muses how women are expected to tolerate men’s infidelities and faults and how organized religion plays into male domination in the family.
Legion regrets having agreed to her boys spending every weekend with Herry, not realizing that was the first step in the undermining and alienating process. She still believes Herry is trying to get better so he can come home, but her oldest son tells her something that severely challenges that belief…
In the last chapter, “The Company One’s Mind Keeps”, Legion is determined to enjoy a wonderful summer with her kids despite Herry being gone. She continues to naïvely believe Herry is actively working on reforming his sexual addiction and misogynistic faults and that this is helped along by his mind keeping better company than in the past.
Dr. Blue’s novel is based on her own experience of the Custody Crisis. It uniquely conveys how Family Court judges are “mother-fucking” women—a form of systemic violence directed at ex-wives—as protagonist Legion is systematically and methodically deprived of her children and money and reduced to “one fucked mother”.
Chapters are stand-alone interesting so you can begin reading anywhere. A Cast of Characters follows to help readers at any point. All published chapters are included in the Section: “Saga of One F**ked Mother” accessible on the top bar of the home page: Women’s Coalition News & Views. Sequential chapters are published every Wednesday and subscribers will find them in their inboxes, so make sure to subscribe if you haven’t yet!
TEASERS
At no time during those first days of Mehitable’s finally knowing that Herry’d left, was I, her very child and from my own mother’s lips then—or any day since, given simple, unconditional understanding, empathy and compassion…Always, always defending myself I was. And always, always in front of Mirzah, Jesse and Zane as well.
“No other subordinated class, caste or minority lives as closely integrated with its oppressor as women do; the males of the dominant culture have to allow them into their homes, kitchens, beds. Control at these close quarters can be maintained only by inducing women to consent to their own downgrading.”
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Family court judges have the power to endanger children. Mothers cannot protect their children in family court. New laws won't protect children. Male entitlement dominates family court. Fathers that request child custody usually get it. Judicial training won't protect children. Family court judges knowingly give custody to abusive males. Children are considered male property. Family court judges abuse their power. They face no consequences for their actions. Women must continue to unite and fight for a new system. Children deserve to be safe. Family court judges must lose their power. Family court must end.
Jason’s mom DID seek support from the Family Court and was denied assistance. Once Jaxon was shot, they sealed the case.