Sadly this is happening all too often. The family courts do not care what damage they do. As soon as a mother is seen trying to leave the abusive husband / partner and children are involved the local authorities / social services refuse to believe the father of being abusive and they side on him and the mother is then branded unstable and made to go through so many assessments and tests and the children are forcibly removed by social services by the lies they tell. You can have as much evidence to support your case but the family courts refuse to acknowledge abuse happens and despite the Domestic Abuse Bill that was created to show coercive / controlling behaviour the judges do not care and will always side with the social services as it is purely a money gaining process and the truth is never sought out and the mothers and the children are the ones who end up loosing out and sadly like this dear mother she could not take the heart ache any longer but the local authorities and other professionals will report she was unstable but they will refuse to actually report the truth that they are the perpetrators of abuse and they are the real reason this dear soul has sadly passed on.
The Welsh statistics for removing children into care are exceptionally high compared to England and Ireland. The Justice Commission Report in Wales (2019) flagged up a problem in the current system that needed investigating, as too many Welsh children were being removed due to a system that was unfit for purpose. Viv Baker MA (Domestic Violence and Sexual Abuse Masters at Goldsmiths University) set up PEN (public enquiry now into Welsh children’s services in 2019) to offer peer to peer support for mothers/fathers who had been targeted unfairly. We did weekly sessions to offer support because there are so many suicides in Wales connected with children wrongly being removed from loving families. One lady had her own child abuse (when she was a helpless child herself) used against her when as an adult, having just given birth, medical staff did not comply to their ethical codes but used obsolete data as a tool to remove her baby. This data had an obsolete diagnosis of schizophrenia when this lady was just 12 years old (the doctor who did this to her when she was a child was struck off as he had been diagnosing babies and toddlers and drugging them). This woman was a child victim of this doctor and yet this obsolete diagnosis was used by incompetent staff who did not double check the accuracy of the data. Instead she was re-victimised and this was used to remove her child. This was just 2019. This is yet another case in Wales. No accountability. No evidence of Welsh systems being trauma informed. RIP Nia. I’m so sorry they did this to you xx Wish we could have reached out to you. X
This is SO heartbreaking. Only last night I had to deal with a suicidal mom - abused by Family Court allowing her ex to drag her through custody litigation for 12 years.. That mom was taken to jail right after her breast cancer surgery for calling her kids before surgery. (She had an unlawful Order of Protection against her at that time). When someone is telling you "I fell very, very bad.. Please don't let me die...I am serious. I feel I don't want to live.. I feel very bad..." and you know that Family court caused it, you may feel angry at Family Court. Yet, it keeps putting kids in the middle, allowing kids to make decision who they want to live with - decision NO kid wants to make, and NO kid is ready for.. When it keeps robbing moms off emotionally, mentally, financially, mentally, perpetuating legal and administrative abuse...where there is NO Due Process and presumption of guilty, with winner-takes-it-all approach.....it leaves you in a sad awe, thinking How we, society, even got to this point?!......
Alas, this is often the thought mothers entertain (killing themselves) when they feel they cant deal with too much excruciating pain, not so much theirs but their children's and the thought of not having been able to relieve that pain... when they have plunged in such a horrid depression that they feel death is their only exit. Since you have covered those tragedies, Cindy, how many women have committed suicide? I would like to write a story on this. You might know that in France, we now have an governmental Incest Commission which is doing a great job on speaking out on PAS. The media is now reporting on it big time in France. Some public TV Spanish reporters want to initiate the same movement in Spain (where incest is still very taboo but they have special courts dedicated to marital abuse) , if we could all rally and create an international movement...
I pray for this poor mama and her babies. I hear you Nia. At some point, the courts have to be held accountable for their actions against great mothers and children. Stand tough moms- fight the good fight. Courts are for abusers. But we will stand as tough as we can.
Sadly this is happening all too often. The family courts do not care what damage they do. As soon as a mother is seen trying to leave the abusive husband / partner and children are involved the local authorities / social services refuse to believe the father of being abusive and they side on him and the mother is then branded unstable and made to go through so many assessments and tests and the children are forcibly removed by social services by the lies they tell. You can have as much evidence to support your case but the family courts refuse to acknowledge abuse happens and despite the Domestic Abuse Bill that was created to show coercive / controlling behaviour the judges do not care and will always side with the social services as it is purely a money gaining process and the truth is never sought out and the mothers and the children are the ones who end up loosing out and sadly like this dear mother she could not take the heart ache any longer but the local authorities and other professionals will report she was unstable but they will refuse to actually report the truth that they are the perpetrators of abuse and they are the real reason this dear soul has sadly passed on.
The Welsh statistics for removing children into care are exceptionally high compared to England and Ireland. The Justice Commission Report in Wales (2019) flagged up a problem in the current system that needed investigating, as too many Welsh children were being removed due to a system that was unfit for purpose. Viv Baker MA (Domestic Violence and Sexual Abuse Masters at Goldsmiths University) set up PEN (public enquiry now into Welsh children’s services in 2019) to offer peer to peer support for mothers/fathers who had been targeted unfairly. We did weekly sessions to offer support because there are so many suicides in Wales connected with children wrongly being removed from loving families. One lady had her own child abuse (when she was a helpless child herself) used against her when as an adult, having just given birth, medical staff did not comply to their ethical codes but used obsolete data as a tool to remove her baby. This data had an obsolete diagnosis of schizophrenia when this lady was just 12 years old (the doctor who did this to her when she was a child was struck off as he had been diagnosing babies and toddlers and drugging them). This woman was a child victim of this doctor and yet this obsolete diagnosis was used by incompetent staff who did not double check the accuracy of the data. Instead she was re-victimised and this was used to remove her child. This was just 2019. This is yet another case in Wales. No accountability. No evidence of Welsh systems being trauma informed. RIP Nia. I’m so sorry they did this to you xx Wish we could have reached out to you. X
This is SO heartbreaking. Only last night I had to deal with a suicidal mom - abused by Family Court allowing her ex to drag her through custody litigation for 12 years.. That mom was taken to jail right after her breast cancer surgery for calling her kids before surgery. (She had an unlawful Order of Protection against her at that time). When someone is telling you "I fell very, very bad.. Please don't let me die...I am serious. I feel I don't want to live.. I feel very bad..." and you know that Family court caused it, you may feel angry at Family Court. Yet, it keeps putting kids in the middle, allowing kids to make decision who they want to live with - decision NO kid wants to make, and NO kid is ready for.. When it keeps robbing moms off emotionally, mentally, financially, mentally, perpetuating legal and administrative abuse...where there is NO Due Process and presumption of guilty, with winner-takes-it-all approach.....it leaves you in a sad awe, thinking How we, society, even got to this point?!......
"she was petrified constantly"... and no reporter wonders why. I imagine the mother tried to tell but her words were carefully selected.
Alas, this is often the thought mothers entertain (killing themselves) when they feel they cant deal with too much excruciating pain, not so much theirs but their children's and the thought of not having been able to relieve that pain... when they have plunged in such a horrid depression that they feel death is their only exit. Since you have covered those tragedies, Cindy, how many women have committed suicide? I would like to write a story on this. You might know that in France, we now have an governmental Incest Commission which is doing a great job on speaking out on PAS. The media is now reporting on it big time in France. Some public TV Spanish reporters want to initiate the same movement in Spain (where incest is still very taboo but they have special courts dedicated to marital abuse) , if we could all rally and create an international movement...
Tragic. Again. The suffering is us mind and our kids. 😭
I pray for this poor mama and her babies. I hear you Nia. At some point, the courts have to be held accountable for their actions against great mothers and children. Stand tough moms- fight the good fight. Courts are for abusers. But we will stand as tough as we can.
The authorities are slowly killing us all....
So sad to hear of another death. 😢