I absolutely agree with everything said in this article, though I would like to add one comment. There's a reason there is a conflict in talking about alienation. "Alienation" is falsely used against mothers in family court when a child reports abuse by the father. This is then used to give the abusive father custody as the judge says the mother will never support a relation with the father and is "alienating" them from the father. Mothers tend to believe that children need at least some relationship with the father and will bend over backwards to facilitate this, often even when he abused her or if she fears for their safety and thus asks visitation be supervised. They rarely, if ever, try to alienate the children from their father. Abusive fathers, on the other hand, do try to alienate the children from the mother. They do this as another way of hurting the mother. Many people decide they no longer wish to stay in their marriage for many different reasons. Divorce is legal. But good parents who decide to seperate, make decisions with the best interest of any children as a top priority. They work together and co-parent appropriately. They don't use the children as weapons. In family court, mothers get falsely accused of alienating, while abusive fathers get supported in their alienation. This is why the word "alienation" has gotten such a bad rep recently. If this difference isn't understood, this problem will never be solved. Mothers need to be protected from this false accusation, while abusive fathers need to be held accountable for their abusing.
Just because mothers are being falsely accused of it does not mean the response should be to say it is not real or people should not use the word alienate. That is counterproductive and divisive and harmful to our efforts to raise awareness about and end the crisis. The response should simply be that judges are wrongly deeming mothers to be alienating and allowing fathers to alienate. The problem is the lying judges and the system that allows them to lie.
Family court judges often grant child custody to males that request it. It doesn't matter if they're abusive. Children are forced to grow up in the environment these men and complicit individuals provide. Family court judges empower men and disempower women. Patriarchy dominates family court. Children are considered male property. They are often taken from their loving mothers. Family court judges falsely deem loving mothers unfit. They endanger children. Removing children from their primary attachment figure is harmful. The damage can last a lifetime. Mothers are wrongly blamed. Family court is about male power and control. Women and children suffer. Mothers cannot protect their children in family court. Women must continue to unite and fight for a new system. A jury would give women and children a chance at justice. Family court must end. Family court judges abuse their power. They must no longer have the power to do so. Women need the power to protect their children. The best interests of a child are to be primarily with their loving mother.
= " Family court judges often grant child custody to males that request it. It doesn't matter if they're abusive. Children are forced to grow up in the environment these men and complicit individuals provide. Family court judges empower men and disempower women. Patriarchy dominates family court. Children are considered male property. They are often taken from their loving mothers. Family court judges falsely deem loving mothers unfit. They endanger children. Removing children from their primary attachment figure is harmful. The damage can last a lifetime. Mothers are wrongly blamed. Family court is about male power and control. Women and children suffer. Mothers cannot protect their children in family court. Women must continue to unite and fight for a new system. A jury would give women and children a chance at justice. Family court must end. Family court judges abuse their power. They must no longer have the power to do so. Women need the power to protect their children. The best interests of a child are to be primarily with their loving mother. "
This sad and why the family courts, and the Judges and Lawyers that take advantage, are committing the perfect crime. These young people are the victims. They are subjected to broken and highly dis functional family dynamics that permanently damage them. They find out years later about who truly harmed them, after the statute of limitations have run out and these Judges have received their payday. Disgusting. Did you know that the Supreme Court has affirmed in the past that state court orders based on fraud upon the court are immune from statute of limitations? See Ciminelli v United States. We have to fight these corrupt officers of the court. They are not above the law nor can they take away your rights.
I plan on bringing to light to corruption. I wish the media cared.
Family Court is designed so judges are--in practice--above the law and can violate rights. But they don't even have to violate laws or rights to take our children. All they have to do is lie about us and there is nothing you can do about that. That is why we need to get cases out of family courts, into regular civil courts with a jury.
If you want to engage in activism to end the systemic discrimination against women in Family Court, consider joining Sisters in Solidarity.
OMG, I knew there was something very creepy about Phoenix as a first name. What a sad story! Also, an eye-opening connection between violence and prior ruptures in parenting.
THE ELEPHANT IN THE ROOM we all see but hardly talk about!
I've been pondering about this for a while ...
When we speak out against corrupt, unjust judges—especially as mothers—we often assume they must all be men to be so blatantly misogynistic. But is that assumption even true?
While there isn’t a definitive national statistic, estimates suggest that women make up more than 50%, and possibly close to 70%, of family court personnel (at least in the US) —including judges, clerks, and other court officials - So the real question becomes: Who are these women, what ideologies do they subscribe to, and why do they seem to hate other women—especially mothers—so much? Why are they complicit in the abuse of mothers and children in family court?
We can no longer ignore the reality that some women not only INTERNALIZE misogyny but actively WEAPONIZE it against other women. Based on the many women I've talked to who have gone through a divorce, I’ve noticed a pattern that I just cannot overlook anymore: women without children tend to face far less hostility in family court than mothers— particularly those escaping abusive marriages.
These female judges seem to have no problem with abuse or infidelity—so long as it’s the husband engaging in it. Their mindset is disturbingly similar to that of ruthless, envious self-serving mistresses for whom 'anything goes' as long as it serves their interests and destroying families and the lives and future of children in the process is only a small price to be paid at the altar of their personal ambitions. It is also quite uncanny how both of them (female judges and mistresses) also appear to share an opportunistic, narcissistic, male-centric worldview, where their self-worth and sense of value hinge on attaching themselves to men who are viewed by them as stepping stones to power and privilege they fear they cannot attain on their own merits. They also PROJECT their opportunistic worldview onto other women, convinced everyone sees (or should see) the world as 'they' do.
The contempt these female judges harbor for mothers fighting to protect their children makes no logical sense otherwise. It’s as if they feel very secure, believing they are immune to the consequences of their own hateful actions — deluded into thinking the destruction and evil they create and facilitate won’t one day touch their own lives ... or that of their children and grandchildren.
What is the explanation for their behavior and their delusions? If someone has any honest insights based on either reliable research on the subject or their own experiences please do share here. This is a conversation that’s long overdue.
The female judges are entitling men for the same reason as the male judges: it is their job. That is what they must do to remain in the OBN's good graces and gain more power. And if they don't go along to get along, there are negative consequences for them and their career. And some are sociopathic and enjoy harming other women, just like some male judges.
The ones I've dealt with were clearly Sociopathic and looked like they were enjoying the torture. They should be made to go through Psych evaluations before they are ever allowed to serve as judges .... but that would defeat the whole purpose of getting mad men and mad women to run the Family Court Circus.
If he hadn’t been taken from his mother and grew up in Norway, he’s also have less gunfluence around him and less access to weapons. Murrica and our stupid lack of laws.
Thank you for this article. This really raises an important qs worth investigating: How many juvenile criminal cases (including school shootings) can be traced back to Family Court disasters? It really is worth finding out if those interested in research can research this. A few other points I'd like to make:
- ALIENATION - still the SILVER BULLET - Alienation is ONLY recognized and only matters to the evi and convivingl family court judges when it suits the abusive father and when it can be used as a DARVO technique against a protective mother to cover and divert attention away from the abuse by the father (as happened in my case). They do NOT (I repeat do NOT) pay any heed when abusive fathers are the ones alienating. You can simply forget about it. You (as a mother) can cry and plead till you are blue in the face - they will not hear you. Another example of the sexist bias entrenched in the corrupt family court.
- THE SPELL OF BOGUS AUTHORITY - In the first story of the school shooting it says the mom (Anne-Marie) took Christian to Norway but was 'ordered to return and when she did she was arrested at the airport and jailed for 200 days. Here is my question: Why would you want to return when you know for a fact you will NOT get justice? To do so means you (the protective parents) actually believe these judges know or care for the 'best interest of the child' more than you do. If you seriously believe that then you are deep in the woods of La La Land. When these crooked and corrupt judges don't even respect or follow the US Constitution why should we believe they will protect your rights or that of your children. Why should we show them deference or accept their bogus authority when they keep desecrating the Constitution? This is nothing short of HYPNOTISM or a form of SPELL where despite knowing full well WHO your enemy is you walk right into your enemies lair. As long as protective parents keep ACCEPTING the authority of these corrupt and immoral judges and as long as we keep ACQUIESCING NOTHING is going to change for the better for children. The only way to FLIP this situation is to strip these judges of their undeserved authority - a) get the Lawmakers in each State to hold INVESTIGATIVE hearings and b) file class action civil rights lawsuits against these judges and their cronies in Federal Court left, right and center. Start YESTERDAY - These judges 100% deserve to be put in jail along with the Criminals THEY create with their own hands.
- DIVINE JUSTICE : In the 2nd story notice how the abusive father (Cody) only gets put in jail when he burns down physical property. When he was burning down the very LIVES of children, no one cared not even Governor Shapiro. Should we call this Comeuppance? These callous, heartless bystanders (ENABLERS) are not going to learn until the Criminals they support with their SILENCE & INACTION start hurting them directly. Maybe that's what they are waiting for. The stronger the Denial, the worse the Damage, the worse the Pain. They will keep on ignoring the plight of Children in their States and do nothing in their Power to stop it. Divine Justice, however, has never sought or needed their approval. And when it does arrive it spares no one.
FYI if Anne-Mari did not return, there would have been a SWAT team sent to take Christian back and likely arrest her too. The enforcement of male property--their children--being returned to them is taken very seriously internationally.
Also, we don't need more investigations; we know what is happening and what to do about it; and it's better to file lawsuits against the system than individual judges which is what we are doing: https://bit.ly/LawsuitPostSS
Thank you for the important work you’re doing. While your class action initiative against systemic issues is admirable, I’m unsure how it would directly benefit my case. My situation, while similar in many respects to other cases of abuse, also has a unique component most other similar cases do not have — it involves a legally binding marriage contract that my ex-husband breached and which explicitly grants me sole custody in the event of a divorce, a contract the judge not only disregarded but actively violated by facilitating the cross-state abduction of my children by my abusive, estranged ex — all without a signed legal order.
Given the egregious nature of these crimes, I will be pursuing legal action against the judge for compensatory, punitive, and injunctive relief. I am also not seeking judicial reform. I believe we're already past that point. I do not believe that the family court system, in its current state, is salvageable. I see abolition — not reform — as the only justifiable solution at this point.
I absolutely agree with everything said in this article, though I would like to add one comment. There's a reason there is a conflict in talking about alienation. "Alienation" is falsely used against mothers in family court when a child reports abuse by the father. This is then used to give the abusive father custody as the judge says the mother will never support a relation with the father and is "alienating" them from the father. Mothers tend to believe that children need at least some relationship with the father and will bend over backwards to facilitate this, often even when he abused her or if she fears for their safety and thus asks visitation be supervised. They rarely, if ever, try to alienate the children from their father. Abusive fathers, on the other hand, do try to alienate the children from the mother. They do this as another way of hurting the mother. Many people decide they no longer wish to stay in their marriage for many different reasons. Divorce is legal. But good parents who decide to seperate, make decisions with the best interest of any children as a top priority. They work together and co-parent appropriately. They don't use the children as weapons. In family court, mothers get falsely accused of alienating, while abusive fathers get supported in their alienation. This is why the word "alienation" has gotten such a bad rep recently. If this difference isn't understood, this problem will never be solved. Mothers need to be protected from this false accusation, while abusive fathers need to be held accountable for their abusing.
Yes we address that in our column: Down the Parental Alienation Rabbit Hole. https://womenscoalition.substack.com/p/the-parental-alienation-rabbit-hole
Just because mothers are being falsely accused of it does not mean the response should be to say it is not real or people should not use the word alienate. That is counterproductive and divisive and harmful to our efforts to raise awareness about and end the crisis. The response should simply be that judges are wrongly deeming mothers to be alienating and allowing fathers to alienate. The problem is the lying judges and the system that allows them to lie.
Judges, BOTH genders thereof and WORLDWIDE, ... ... IGNORE the ACTUAL EVIDENCE.
And, themselves, along with their gargantuan judicial " IMMUNITY, " ... ... ... ... LIE.
Doc
Family court judges often grant child custody to males that request it. It doesn't matter if they're abusive. Children are forced to grow up in the environment these men and complicit individuals provide. Family court judges empower men and disempower women. Patriarchy dominates family court. Children are considered male property. They are often taken from their loving mothers. Family court judges falsely deem loving mothers unfit. They endanger children. Removing children from their primary attachment figure is harmful. The damage can last a lifetime. Mothers are wrongly blamed. Family court is about male power and control. Women and children suffer. Mothers cannot protect their children in family court. Women must continue to unite and fight for a new system. A jury would give women and children a chance at justice. Family court must end. Family court judges abuse their power. They must no longer have the power to do so. Women need the power to protect their children. The best interests of a child are to be primarily with their loving mother.
W H A T Ms Booth says.
W H A T Ms Dumas says.
= " Family court judges often grant child custody to males that request it. It doesn't matter if they're abusive. Children are forced to grow up in the environment these men and complicit individuals provide. Family court judges empower men and disempower women. Patriarchy dominates family court. Children are considered male property. They are often taken from their loving mothers. Family court judges falsely deem loving mothers unfit. They endanger children. Removing children from their primary attachment figure is harmful. The damage can last a lifetime. Mothers are wrongly blamed. Family court is about male power and control. Women and children suffer. Mothers cannot protect their children in family court. Women must continue to unite and fight for a new system. A jury would give women and children a chance at justice. Family court must end. Family court judges abuse their power. They must no longer have the power to do so. Women need the power to protect their children. The best interests of a child are to be primarily with their loving mother. "
Doc
This sad and why the family courts, and the Judges and Lawyers that take advantage, are committing the perfect crime. These young people are the victims. They are subjected to broken and highly dis functional family dynamics that permanently damage them. They find out years later about who truly harmed them, after the statute of limitations have run out and these Judges have received their payday. Disgusting. Did you know that the Supreme Court has affirmed in the past that state court orders based on fraud upon the court are immune from statute of limitations? See Ciminelli v United States. We have to fight these corrupt officers of the court. They are not above the law nor can they take away your rights.
I plan on bringing to light to corruption. I wish the media cared.
Family Court is designed so judges are--in practice--above the law and can violate rights. But they don't even have to violate laws or rights to take our children. All they have to do is lie about us and there is nothing you can do about that. That is why we need to get cases out of family courts, into regular civil courts with a jury.
If you want to engage in activism to end the systemic discrimination against women in Family Court, consider joining Sisters in Solidarity.
https://womenscoalition.substack.com/p/sisters-in-solidarity-new-activism
OMG, I knew there was something very creepy about Phoenix as a first name. What a sad story! Also, an eye-opening connection between violence and prior ruptures in parenting.
THE ELEPHANT IN THE ROOM we all see but hardly talk about!
I've been pondering about this for a while ...
When we speak out against corrupt, unjust judges—especially as mothers—we often assume they must all be men to be so blatantly misogynistic. But is that assumption even true?
While there isn’t a definitive national statistic, estimates suggest that women make up more than 50%, and possibly close to 70%, of family court personnel (at least in the US) —including judges, clerks, and other court officials - So the real question becomes: Who are these women, what ideologies do they subscribe to, and why do they seem to hate other women—especially mothers—so much? Why are they complicit in the abuse of mothers and children in family court?
We can no longer ignore the reality that some women not only INTERNALIZE misogyny but actively WEAPONIZE it against other women. Based on the many women I've talked to who have gone through a divorce, I’ve noticed a pattern that I just cannot overlook anymore: women without children tend to face far less hostility in family court than mothers— particularly those escaping abusive marriages.
These female judges seem to have no problem with abuse or infidelity—so long as it’s the husband engaging in it. Their mindset is disturbingly similar to that of ruthless, envious self-serving mistresses for whom 'anything goes' as long as it serves their interests and destroying families and the lives and future of children in the process is only a small price to be paid at the altar of their personal ambitions. It is also quite uncanny how both of them (female judges and mistresses) also appear to share an opportunistic, narcissistic, male-centric worldview, where their self-worth and sense of value hinge on attaching themselves to men who are viewed by them as stepping stones to power and privilege they fear they cannot attain on their own merits. They also PROJECT their opportunistic worldview onto other women, convinced everyone sees (or should see) the world as 'they' do.
The contempt these female judges harbor for mothers fighting to protect their children makes no logical sense otherwise. It’s as if they feel very secure, believing they are immune to the consequences of their own hateful actions — deluded into thinking the destruction and evil they create and facilitate won’t one day touch their own lives ... or that of their children and grandchildren.
What is the explanation for their behavior and their delusions? If someone has any honest insights based on either reliable research on the subject or their own experiences please do share here. This is a conversation that’s long overdue.
The female judges are entitling men for the same reason as the male judges: it is their job. That is what they must do to remain in the OBN's good graces and gain more power. And if they don't go along to get along, there are negative consequences for them and their career. And some are sociopathic and enjoy harming other women, just like some male judges.
The ones I've dealt with were clearly Sociopathic and looked like they were enjoying the torture. They should be made to go through Psych evaluations before they are ever allowed to serve as judges .... but that would defeat the whole purpose of getting mad men and mad women to run the Family Court Circus.
If he hadn’t been taken from his mother and grew up in Norway, he’s also have less gunfluence around him and less access to weapons. Murrica and our stupid lack of laws.
Thank you for this article. This really raises an important qs worth investigating: How many juvenile criminal cases (including school shootings) can be traced back to Family Court disasters? It really is worth finding out if those interested in research can research this. A few other points I'd like to make:
- ALIENATION - still the SILVER BULLET - Alienation is ONLY recognized and only matters to the evi and convivingl family court judges when it suits the abusive father and when it can be used as a DARVO technique against a protective mother to cover and divert attention away from the abuse by the father (as happened in my case). They do NOT (I repeat do NOT) pay any heed when abusive fathers are the ones alienating. You can simply forget about it. You (as a mother) can cry and plead till you are blue in the face - they will not hear you. Another example of the sexist bias entrenched in the corrupt family court.
- THE SPELL OF BOGUS AUTHORITY - In the first story of the school shooting it says the mom (Anne-Marie) took Christian to Norway but was 'ordered to return and when she did she was arrested at the airport and jailed for 200 days. Here is my question: Why would you want to return when you know for a fact you will NOT get justice? To do so means you (the protective parents) actually believe these judges know or care for the 'best interest of the child' more than you do. If you seriously believe that then you are deep in the woods of La La Land. When these crooked and corrupt judges don't even respect or follow the US Constitution why should we believe they will protect your rights or that of your children. Why should we show them deference or accept their bogus authority when they keep desecrating the Constitution? This is nothing short of HYPNOTISM or a form of SPELL where despite knowing full well WHO your enemy is you walk right into your enemies lair. As long as protective parents keep ACCEPTING the authority of these corrupt and immoral judges and as long as we keep ACQUIESCING NOTHING is going to change for the better for children. The only way to FLIP this situation is to strip these judges of their undeserved authority - a) get the Lawmakers in each State to hold INVESTIGATIVE hearings and b) file class action civil rights lawsuits against these judges and their cronies in Federal Court left, right and center. Start YESTERDAY - These judges 100% deserve to be put in jail along with the Criminals THEY create with their own hands.
- DIVINE JUSTICE : In the 2nd story notice how the abusive father (Cody) only gets put in jail when he burns down physical property. When he was burning down the very LIVES of children, no one cared not even Governor Shapiro. Should we call this Comeuppance? These callous, heartless bystanders (ENABLERS) are not going to learn until the Criminals they support with their SILENCE & INACTION start hurting them directly. Maybe that's what they are waiting for. The stronger the Denial, the worse the Damage, the worse the Pain. They will keep on ignoring the plight of Children in their States and do nothing in their Power to stop it. Divine Justice, however, has never sought or needed their approval. And when it does arrive it spares no one.
FYI if Anne-Mari did not return, there would have been a SWAT team sent to take Christian back and likely arrest her too. The enforcement of male property--their children--being returned to them is taken very seriously internationally.
Also, we don't need more investigations; we know what is happening and what to do about it; and it's better to file lawsuits against the system than individual judges which is what we are doing: https://bit.ly/LawsuitPostSS
Thank you for the important work you’re doing. While your class action initiative against systemic issues is admirable, I’m unsure how it would directly benefit my case. My situation, while similar in many respects to other cases of abuse, also has a unique component most other similar cases do not have — it involves a legally binding marriage contract that my ex-husband breached and which explicitly grants me sole custody in the event of a divorce, a contract the judge not only disregarded but actively violated by facilitating the cross-state abduction of my children by my abusive, estranged ex — all without a signed legal order.
Given the egregious nature of these crimes, I will be pursuing legal action against the judge for compensatory, punitive, and injunctive relief. I am also not seeking judicial reform. I believe we're already past that point. I do not believe that the family court system, in its current state, is salvageable. I see abolition — not reform — as the only justifiable solution at this point.
I do commend your effort and wish you the best.