Happy "Motherhood Month" to Mothers around the World
Reclaiming Reverence for Motherhood
Today is Mother’s Day in the U.S.
In other countries it is celebrated on other days but most in May.
Mother’s Days celebrate individual mothers (notice where the apostrophe goes). Calls are made, cards are sent, presents are given—and that is great. Each and every mother should receive accolades for having nurtured their own children.
However, Motherhood itself used to be revered and celebrated, not just individual mothers. Communities would most often celebrate in May, when Spring was in bloom and it was halfway to the Summer Solstice. Ancient ceremonies and rituals exalted fertility in nature and in human mothers for their amazing role in continuing life. Goddesses represented the sanctity of Motherhood.
Those early societies, deeply in synch with nature, revered Mothers as a Class—females who conceive, gestate, give birth, nurse, and nurture; and, thereby, continue the human race. They were mostly matriarchal egalitarian societies, where women had power over their lives and their children’s, some of which still function today in remote places.
This is in contrast to patriarchal hierarchical societies that replaced them ten thousand years ago. The holistic, societal reverence for motherhood was lost. Actually it was stolen. Deliberately. As part of the disempowering of women in society.
It’s time we regained and reclaimed the reverence for Motherhood that was wrongly disappeared.
A first step in this direction is to proclaim May “Motherhood Month”.
MOTHERHOOD MONTH
There are Months designated for all kinds of things, like Arts and Humanities, Women’s History, Domestic Violence Awareness, even Food Service Safety! There is no reason we should not have a month for Motherhood—arguably the most important of all…
Yes, it’s time we bring back the reverence of old for Motherhood and re-instill maternal values back into society. A good way to start would be to designate May “Motherhood Month”.
This will unite mothers from around the world to focus on and highlight important matters relating to mothers everywhere. Of course, one of the main problems facing mothers around the world is losing custody in family courts, which is The Women’s Coalition’s focus.
MOTHERHOOD INTERRUPTED
It’s all about power with the Old Boys. That is why they disappeared the long-standing reverence for Motherhood, which likely existed from the earliest human societies a couple hundred thousand years ago.
The natural significance of Motherhood inadvertently gave women power. Men eventually came to see this raw power as a threat to their power over women and children, particularly wives.
So, about ten thousand years ago, men formed alliances and forcibly instituted Patriarchy.
This resulted in mothering becoming simply a duty and taken for granted. On the other hand, the importance of fatherhood was exaggerated and men gave themselves sole power and control over children to take and abuse if they so pleased.
RECLAIMING MOTHERHOOD
It’s only within the last couple hundred years that women have been able to partially reclaim the importance of Motherhood. This began with the first laws allowing women to have custody—but only in early childhood. This was said to be in the best interests of children, implying the importance of mothering in the early years. Men retained legal custody of children over seven.
However, the truth was, men did not want to do the hard work of parenting babies, toddlers and young kids so it was an easy concession to make, and if they still wanted to take children, they could. See our History of the Crisis case of Caroline: 1830's Custody Crisis Case: Leads to First "Mothers' Rights" Law.
But the Old Boys changed the narrative when child support began being enforced a few decades ago. All of a sudden many men wanted custody of younger children to avoiding paying support.
So the new narrative is that once again motherhood is not special at any age. Fathers and mothers are the same; children need their father as much as their mother; motherhood is not even important in the early years. Hence, fathers should automatically get at least half parenting time, and it’s no problem for them to have primary or sole custody.
Men are even being given custody of breastfeeding babies. And the public goes along with the BS because men have always controlled the narrative to benefit themselves and their desire to maintain power, not because it is better for children.
IMPORTANCE OF PRIMARY ATTACHMENT
Nature made mammalian mothers the primary attachment figure for offspring, with bonding beginning in utero. This bonding continues throughout nursing and nurturing in early and late childhood.
What most people do not realize is that the mother remains the child’s primary attachment figure throughout life, regardless if taken away from Mom. The truth is, children do better mentally and emotionally when they remain living primarily with mothers after separation.
There are many other narratives that diminish Motherhood, but that’s for another day. Some are listed in a previous column: Dispelling Family Court Propaganda & False Narratives.
It’s high time women begin dispelling false narratives that minimize and degrade Motherhood. The public must be helped to understand the truth about the importance of mothers and bonding: that it’s better for children, mothers, and society for children to remain living primarily with their mothers after divorce.
Children should never be taken away from their mother unless a jury finds her to be abusive and harmful to her child.
It may sound radical to say mothers are more important than fathers in the raising and nurturing of children, but that’s only because the Old Boys have controlled the narrative for what seems like forever. That is why the cultural battle for our children is as vital as the legal battle.
Which brings us full circle.
Proclaiming May as “Motherhood Month” provides a launching pad for bringing back reverence for Motherhood and enables a discourse about important issues facing mothers today, including the importance of mothers in children’s lives post-separation.
So May is now Motherhood Month!
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IN OTHER NEWS
Sisters in Solidarity Forum this Saturday!
Mothers who’ve joined either SIS or the discrimination lawsuit will be sent a link to the zoom a few days before. [Check alternate inboxes.]
More info: Sisters in Solidarity
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To join the lawsuit: fill out this form for the U.S. and for other countries this form.
SATURDAY FORUM:
Saturday, May 17th: 1pm Pacific; 4pm Eastern; 9pm London; 6am (18th) in Sydney.
CHAPTER 28: PART 5: NEXT SECTION IS OUT!
CHAPTER 28: The Opera: Act III; Pt. 5 [cont. 1]
Legion must fork out more money than she has left for the appeal of the third custody ruling, so she relies on friends to lend her money while she works multiple jobs. Looking back, she is ashamed that she actually believed justice might prevail and continued to spend so much time and money pursuing it, when it was obvious by this time—3 custody trials and one appeal later—that “fatherhood exaltation overruns the true Rule of Law”.
Legion does realize that her boys’ childhoods were passing by while she fought for custody with no end in sight. So, she decides to defy court orders and clandestinely visit her boys in disguise. She embarks on the long trip from Iowa to West Virginia, anxious to see them again after years apart…
In the last section, the third custody trial concludes. Judge Butcher gives Herry sole custody and Legion gets no visitation. The false and unjust Findings and Orders leads to Legion filing yet another appeal. In it, she claims his ruling is “wholly illegal, wholly gender-based, gender-biased and gender-discriminatory” and painstakingly lists all the illegalities. With this second appeal, Part 5 of the Opera has begun.
CHAPTER 28 of Mother-Fucking: The Saga of One Fucked Mother begins with Act III, Part 4 of “The Opera” from Book 3. The Opera has three Acts with five Parts—one for each of the three Family Court and two Appellate Court trials. Chapter 28 covers all of Act III: Part 4: the third Family Court trial, and Part 5: the second Appellate trial. This is a long chapter and will be published in newsletter-sized bites.
Dr. Blue’s novel is based on her own experience of the Custody Crisis. It uniquely conveys how Family Court judges are “mother-fucking” women—a form of systemic oppression—as protagonist Legion is systematically and methodically deprived of her children and money and reduced to “one fucked mother”.
Chapters are stand-alone interesting so you can begin reading anywhere. A Cast of Characters follows to help readers at any point. All published chapters are included in the Section: “Saga of One F**ked Mother” accessible on the top bar of the home page of Women’s Coalition News & Views. Sequential chapters are emailed out every Wednesday so make sure to subscribe if you haven’t yet!
TEASERS
I am ashamed to have to declare that I still believed in … America’s Rule of Law. And that, at least inside the courtrooms built up upon the grounds and the very foundations of my ancestors’ ashes, I, the human being I had always thought of myself as, and a caucasian and a highly educated one at that, would still receive justice...
I still chose to ignore the amassing collection of “evidence” beginning to push out of its subtle and shrewd shadows everywhere––which is: that sperm and fatherhood exaltation overruns the true Rule of Law…and that any woman, no matter how allegedly “a have” rather than “a have not” she be, is quite a fucked fool to believe, in an American court of civil law, that she is anything more than a DEhuman.
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The best interests of the child are to be with their loving mother. Good mothers want to nurture their children. They are not interested in power and control over them. Separating loving mothers from their children is harmful. Male entitlement rules family court. Women are powerless to protect their children. They have no enforceable rights. We need a new system. A jury would give women and children a chance at justice. A mother is a child's primary attachment. The mother-child bond is sacred. Children should remain with their loving mothers.