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Stefani Patrusky's avatar

A female judge who prolonged my case by allowing opposing side, who is very wealthy, to file motion after motion (some repeats) to bleed me, allowed opposing side to torment my family and chase them down, repose them. etc., to deny all requests for my attorney fees and sanctions, to announce she would cut off my support before the trial even began, who ignored all evidence to claim that I had "more assets and less debt" when all evidence showed the opposite and to allow opposing side to hide all documents that would reveal the truth and to refuse to show his tax returns, which she predicated child support on. She basically kept me in court for 4 years for no good reason, making me miss work and become a desperate, pleading shadow of my former self. The real victim was my child, who was dragged through this as well. Shame on the Los Angeles family court system. It was a truly disgusting exercise in futility by an incompetent and mean-spirited judge and greedy lawyers who would do anything to line their pockets.

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Jeanette Wallis's avatar

I’m so sorry that happened to you. It was 14 years for me… 20 years of DV by a total stranger who SAd me, and the courts still thought he was a fabulous “father”. I have to believe that it happened for a reason… that it means *I* will be the one to take this system down! They want us to just despair and go away, but don’t you let em do that! Our stories will be what ends this international nightmare. Stories and hardcore organizing, that is! No way around the hard work, but I won’t let what happened to my boy happen to any other child. With this conviction, there is NOTHING we can’t achieve.

And I don’t want to just end it, I want tribunals and reparations. We’ll pay the lawyers minimum wage to clean up their messes and sell their vacation homes to pay up before we send them off to prison for their crimes against humanity. I definitely promised that to all my crooked judges!

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Nonya's avatar

Your story sounds very much like my story and like the stories of so many other mothers ... which makes me believe, once again, there is a PLAYBOOK these judges in Family Court are following. We will be bringing this Goliath down. God Willing we will.

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Anita Washington's avatar

This Judge legally stripped me of certain rights while grossly limiting other rights such as protecting my son. Giving a man my ex abuser of no relation to my child primary custody of my son. Ultimately subjecting my son to the physical emotional, psychological abuse and torment me,all my other children suffered. Now my son is left to suffer it all alone silently, behind closed doors.

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Jeanette Wallis's avatar

Let’s come up with a different ending for that horrible story, sis! Let’s use our stories to organize in our communities and bring these criminals down!

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Anita Washington's avatar

Definitely so I'm all the way in. I am reaching from Va to nc . It's sad to say most don't want to organize or unite if these issues don't directly effect them. Giving up is not an option so I'm still reaching out to any ,all with any kind of positive resolution, feedback, influence because the corruption runs deep,people need to be held accountable.

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Jeanette Wallis's avatar

I started a grassroots movement called Family Law Abolition Working Group (or FLAWG, which is how we all probably felt after our experiences… FLOGGED!), primarily on TikTok, which is the only social media I do now. Made a bunch of videos on how to start a local chapter, but the analytics say people stop watching after 28.6 seconds. I’m just no good at videos, but I’ve organized national campaigns that WON in the past, and I know this is totally feasible. Nothing beats organizing in one’s own community. Literally it starts with posting up notices for weekly meetings where people can show up and plug in and come up with visible actions around the courthouses to raise awareness, write legislation and referendums, and most of all support each other. I figured out long ago that “DV non-profits” (which are VERY profitable for their board members, at least) are little more than diversions to the “family courts”, where we’re given promises of protection, but leave without our kids. I’m done with them! We need to convince others of this, and offer an alternative. That’s just step one, but without those local chapters and their input, there can be no step two. So let’s start there!

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Jeanette Wallis's avatar

Example: When I was organizing around the foreclosure crisis, I joined a group that met every week in a church. They brought in volunteer lawyers to help people with their modification requests in a separate office while the rest of us strategized. We helped people write letters to their bank, and once a month would flood downtown bank offices to read these letters in the bank lobbies. It got to where banks would literally lock their customers inside to keep us from coming in to read those letters! If an elderly or disabled person was facing imminent eviction, we’d camp out on their lawns and refuse to let the sheriff in. We saved a lot of people! I still lost my house, but I learned a lot about effective strategies! Shame is an excellent catalyst, and the judges who try to make US carry the shame they should be keeping all for themselves should be the targets of these campaigns. 😀

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Jeanette Wallis's avatar

Even a small group of people can make a huge impact. Hang banners from highway overpasses! Don’t let anyone go into those courtrooms alone (you do have to be quiet, but you can wear shirts with slogans!). Nothing illegal about doing a light display on the courthouse walls with messages like “Cash for Kids Sold Here! See Judge ____”.

I made this a “movement” so anyone can start a FLAWG chapter and be totally autonomous. I don’t want any centralized power, for that is the guaranteed best way to destroy a movement.

This goes to anyone around the world: take that name and make it your own! The only requirement to join is the belief that reform is impossible, and we must abolish the whole damn system. Even if people know nothing about this issue, if you make your actions fun, non-violent, and highly visual, we’ll get these discussions going. 😉

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Christina Mulligan's avatar

We were destroyed by Family Court Newcastle Australia

I have been unable to move on knowing that this torturous institution continues to destroy mother's and their children.

Sexual abuse, psychological abuse, physical abuse, financial abuse, emotional abuse, verbal abuse have I missed any? are all dished out daily by Judges, Lawyers, Child Protection, Police, Psychologists, Psychiatrists, Court officials, Supervised visitation centres and workers even hospitals and some Drs who work in collusion with the abusive psychopathic fathers who are given free reign.

Then we can't forget all of the politicians and bodies whom you are meant to be able to get help for such injustices. Whom all tell you that their hands are tied.

The system itself insists on the cloak of secrecy which with holds this information from the mainstream whom also claim their hands are tied.

Who will ..... step up and protect the children?

Have we been heard?

Can mother's now breathe?

Can children know they are safe to tell?

My Judge said we all know children lie.....

No evidence made it to the court files.

The Judge continued to pretend that the guilty party was still a party for about a year despite him removing himself.

Going so far as to try to phone him each session.

FACS wrote if the father wanted to access the children at a later date they would assist him..... Let that sink in

If the paedophile wants to reconnect so he can continue to rape the child they would step in and give him a hand.

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The Womens Coalition's avatar

Yes, they all collude to cover up sexual abuse and enable the molester father. That is the Old Boy agenda.

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Nonya's avatar

I am willing to bet that if these judges are properly investigated they will be found to either be child abusers themselves or have links to and funding from child abusers and child trafficking networks.

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Jeanette Wallis's avatar

I understand AU is really putting up a fight around this horrific system! I wish we would here in the US, but we’re still figuring it out. Direct action gets the goods!

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Joyce Booth's avatar

Psychological abuse and torture inflicted:

(heard regarding what the judge/magistrate were saying)

-If you (mother) don't agree to sign over custody of your child, you won't have any contact with him until he's eighteen.

-You (mother) should have gotten custody based on the psychological evaluations. Judge said both parents have issues and sealed records.

-Sign this temporary order regarding reduced visitation. Once signed, the magistrate made it permanent.

-When mother requests a restraining order on father, judge requires mother and father to have one.

-The judge is not following the law by stopping your (mother's) overnight visitation. Never seen anything like it.

-Just because he (father) abuses you (mother) doesn't mean he'll abuse your child.

-A domestic violence shelter is no place for a child (mother has to go in).

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Jeanette Wallis's avatar

I have no idea why lawyers and lawyers in robes have been given the powers they have, but I will do my sincere part to take that power away. Lawyers should have zero influence in the disposition of children. I want a system of experts deciding that, not capitalists. This is something every democratic nation in the world could change through referendum and legislation! Sadly, I don’t think my dear America will be the first. I’m betting on you, NZ, AU, or UK. Go get ‘em! 😀

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Nonya's avatar

"Just because he (father) abuses you (mother) doesn't mean he will abuse your child" .... This is one of those MYTHS perpetuated by Family Court to prioritize abuser's rights over that of the child under the "smokescreen" of the *best interest of the child* doctrine. There are only 2 scenarios that can arise from this.

SCENARIO 1 - Abusive father DOES in fact extend his abuse to the child (children) as retaliation after separation from abused mother and Ex wife (post-separation abuse) - There have been too many cases of this happening for this to be taken lightly, much less overlooked or ignored.

SCENARIO 2 - He doesn't 'physically' abuse the children but by his personal example GROOMS and coaches and sets up an environment for his own son to become a future abuser and his daughter to be a future victim. An unrepentant abuser who has NOT been held accountable by the court and who with the the full support and backing of the Family Court continues to 'endorse, rationalize and normalize' abuse is every bit a harmful sociopathic role model for the children and a danger to society. This is precisely the form of Psychological Abuse that Family Court practices to ensure dysfunction and sociopathy continue for generations ensuring a never-ending SUPPLY CHAIN that feeds both the Divorce Industrial Complex and the Juvenile Prison System.

Therefore, all proponents and supporters of coercive control and custody by abusive fathers are de facto COMPLICIT in this Crime.

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Hayley Howard's avatar

In Chatham Virginia Pittsylvania county Virginia Judge melissa p keen laughed at my evidence of the fathers abuse and told me I'm a liar. Keen went along with false stalking claims on me by the father's attorney. Keen laughed that I cried after her 6 hours of emotional and psychological torture ( heinous litigant abuse) and took my daughters from me. She gave the father a free pass to do as he pleases and break the order by not letting me see my daughters. Judge Keen also went along with the GAL Jessica burgess in Chatham Virginia whom said I was going to murder my daughters with no evidence just a mob against me a loving protective mother. Judge Keen took all of my rights away as a mother. I'm only allowed 1 phone call a week that the abusive father gets to end at any time. The last phone call the abusive father only let my daughters speak to me for 1 minute and 51 seconds. I was a full time mother for 10 1/2 years. I've never been without my daughters since conception. Now I haven't seen my daughters since September 29 2024. My daughters and I are heartbroken and completely cut off from eachother.

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May's avatar

It is sad and shameful that women go through “court crimes” and “legal abuse”, in this era. Thanks for highlighting this.

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Jeanette Wallis's avatar

This 14+ year victim of family court has dutifully written to every national and international organization I could find for many years trying to get someone to even LOOK at my case or ask a follow-up question. Out of thousands of inquiries, I’ve heard nothing back. It sounds really great, but if no one actually benefits from these bold articles and statements, what’s the point?

But of course I just wrote to the ICC yet again, begging for assistance to at least get back the tens of thousands $$$ I’ve had to waste over the years to lose custody of my son to the total stranger who SAd me 20 years ago. I would put that towards touring the nation in my truck camper to recruit my fellow victims in organizing for abolition of the “family court” through referendum on a state-by-state basis, which is very difficult when you’re a middle-aged disabled woman on a fixed income. But I’m still doing it! SOMEONE has to. I’ve seen no real alternatives, and I’m not into protesting for the sake of protesting. I want change NOW!

I’ll let y’all know if I hear back, but it usually never happens. I have no idea what the trick is to be treated like a human being worthy of respect, but it would definitely help to NOT be a working class woman. Is it luck of the draw? Am I not “respectful” enough? Too “angry”? 🤷‍♀️

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Nonya's avatar

It's not you. Never has been you. It is the Psychopaths in Family Court. They scratch each others' backs. Keep doing what you can do without guilt-tripping yourself. It will all come together in the end like drops of water forming an ocean.

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Ada's avatar

Hi, as someone going through this hell in Israel - a paradise for pedophiles, I would like to know how I can use the ICC's recognition? How will this help practically in the fight against Israeli courts? thanks

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The Womens Coalition's avatar

There's not much anything can do in the present system to help us keep or protect our kids, but it gives us credibility when we claim we've been systemically discriminated against. And it helps in our activism. Join The Women's Coalition to help fight for a new system. https://www.womenscoalitioninternational.org/

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Nonya's avatar

I will be looking into the ICCs recognition myself and will come back and post if I find something useful and or actionable. Sorry about your plight.

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M Grillo's avatar

Brava!! Unity is our best chance to make change. I have been fighting this fight for 6 years (Ontario, Canada) and I wish I knew of your group sooner. Please let's be loud together to save our children and our children’s children now.

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The Womens Coalition's avatar

Yes, it is, welcome! You can join our activism group Sisters in Solidarity if you want to help make change: https://womenscoalition.substack.com/p/sisters-in-solidarity-new-activism

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Ruth's avatar

Everything in this article is happening to me in court by the judge, lawyers, evaluators clinical, and GAL. They are all in this together.

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The Womens Coalition's avatar

Yes, they all are. They go along to get along--with the agenda to keep men empowered after divorce.

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Michel O. Willekens's avatar

Pour nous, les Spécialistes et les Experts en Santé Mentale, ce sont les Enfants qui sont - AVANT TOUS - MALTRAITÉS - lors de leurs conflits de gardes !

Depuis un bon moment, ce sont les Mères, victimes de leurs EX qui utilisent les Enfants et les Tribunaux de Familles pour priver les Mères de leurs Enfants, sans raison valable !

* Et ce, malgré le Code Civil qui EXIGE LA PREUVE pour toutes allégation ou plaintes !

Et que c'est le CLASSEMENT SANS SUITE, en absence de Preuve !

Ce sont surtout les Services d'Aide et de Protection à la Jeunesse, les Experts Judiciaires, ET SURTOUT les Juges qui n'appliquent pas les Lois...

Alors ? Qu'est-ce qu'on fait avec une telle justice de bric-à-brac ?

Renseignez-vous ! Bon sang !

Chercheur indépendant

R.E.C. 1994 * International Network Group

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The Womens Coalition's avatar

Oui, le système judiciaire de la famille est conçu pour permettre aux hommes de retirer les enfants de leur mère après un divorce. Nous avons besoin d'un système complètement nouveau.

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Kato's avatar

All facts.

The violence wreaked upon myself and my toddler destroyed us both; he was never to see his mother again outside of torturous supervised visitation run by the fatherhood who made sure each of his valiant disclosures were censured. Bankrupted me, permanently cancelled mother. My son at 24 still believes "daddy will kill mommy if I talk" (about child SA, kiddie porn)

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Jeanette Wallis's avatar

I’m so sorry that happened to you. Neither of you deserved that. Let’s bring this system DOWN! 😀

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Sarah M's avatar

HHJ HEPPENSTALL AT MANCHESTER FAMILY JUSTICE.BULLY WITHOLDING MR AND MY CHILDREN OUR RIGHTS ...NEEDS HER WOMB RETRACTING THE DIRTY B*

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Justice in az's avatar

Maricopa County Judge Charlene Jackson has violated numerous mothers rights and routinely gives custody of innocent children to their abusers including pedos. https://www.change.org/p/investigate-remove-judge-charlene-jackson-for-alleged-negligence-and-misconduct

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Pria Acharya's avatar

I’m going through this now. Just had a hearing Wednesday 12/18 for my daughter, that resembled one for my son 10/13, who has been fully alienated with court support. My court experiences is reflected in the article. I was the only female, oppressed by all the men, for a shared abuse of power and privilege. After I lost my son, I formed a group of alienated moms that now numbers about 3,500.

I’m including this article in my request for clarification motion I’m filing tomorrow, regarding the new order increasing alienator ex’s time and giving him joint decision-making. Our teen with HIgh Functioning Autism is being allowed to determine the schedule.

Anyone is free to reach out to me regarding this: priamba6@gmail.com

https://www.linkedin.com/in/priacharya

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