Mom Gets to See Kids Again—If She Forks Out $4000/Month
Another Case of Judicial Blindsiding & Extortion
A Boston mom gets to see her young children again—but only supervised and only if she forks out $4000/month for the supervision—plus a $500 start-up fee charged by the supervisor. On top of that, she’s out child support and alimony. So, all in all the total damages come to more than $8000/mo. And her ex is keeping the marital assets from her.
Christina was shocked in January when a judge unexpectedly stripped her of custody at an emergency hearing on a motion she had filed to protect her daughter from sexual abuse—at the recommendation of doctors and law enforcement.
She didn’t even get to say goodbye to her precious children. And, worse, her children did not get to say goodbye to their mother, their primary attachment figure, the most important person in their young lives.
All of this oppression and torture enabled and ordered by Family Court.
CHRISTINA’S STORY
Christina’s ex filed for divorce in 2020. He transferred all marital assets to another account so only he would have access to it. It remains that way until today.
Her daughter, Imogen, was 6 years-old at the time of separation and Little Skylar was 2. In the beginning, Christina was allowed to maintain primary custody. But it is unclear whether her ex even fought for more custody or visitation back then—while in the throes of the honeymoon stage with the replacement mom.
At some point, the children made disclosures of physical and emotional abuse. Restraining Orders were issued against the father for both children.
In May of last year the case was transferred to Judge Elizabeth (Beth) Teixeira, well-known for executing the Family Court agenda of switching custody to fathers. She promptly dismissed the Restraining Order on the grounds that Christina’s “allegations” were a result of her alienating. No matter that it was the children reporting the abuse, not her “alleging” abuse, and there was no evidence that they were a result of alienation.
This is the stage where mothers begin to realize something’s wrong with this picture. But they cannot imagine how wrong. Yet. And by the time they do, it is too late.
In September, there were more disclosures of abuse by the kids that led to another restraining order issued by a different judge.
In December, Christina’s daughter apparently reported serious sexual abuse, as well as physical and emotional abuse. It was so serious that the detective referred it to the District Attorney for prosecution of the father.
Imogen disclosed to her pediatrician, another doctor at a Children’s Hospital and a child trauma therapist. All believed she was telling the truth about the abuse.
Imogen told the child trauma therapist that she had thoughts of self-harm and suicide because of what her father was doing to her. She also said she was really afraid he would punish her for telling about the abuse, likely having been threatened, as most children are.
Law enforcement and the D.A. called the abuse horrific and told Christina she needed to file for a Protective Order. Christina told them she was in fear the judge would punish her if she did that, as she already had found she wrongly requested the others.
At a hearing soon after the disclosures, just a week before Christmas, Christina was put on the stand and grilled for seven hours. Judge Teixeira accused her of judge shopping for Restraining Orders. And she threatened Christina that the kids would be placed in foster care if she did not stipulate to a week-long visit with the father at Christmas. She reluctantly agreed, terrified of losing her children to foster care.
When it came time for the visit on Christmas eve, though, Christina couldn’t bear to send them to their abuser, especially with her daughter having thoughts of suicide. She decided to follow law enforcement’s advice and file a motion for an emergency protective order. It was set for January 4th.
With the motion, Christina filed an affidavit of everything her daughter had disclosed to everyone: the doctors, trauma therapist, detective, D.A., CPS, et. al., along with the entire history of the father’s abuse. Included were 27 pieces of supporting evidence: photos, videos, medical and psychological reports, police and D.A. reports, etc.
BLINDSIDED
On the day of the hearing, Christina dropped her kids off at school.
But, not only was Christina not given a temporary protective order, she was blindsided by Judge Teixeira, who ignored all the evidence, so meticulously gathered and entered onto the record. She even ignored the fact that a little nine-year old was having thoughts of self harm and suicide.
Judge Teixeira gave sole custody to the father and restricted Christina to three zoom calls a week. She was ordered to not pick her kids up from school. So that was the last time she saw them until the recent developments.
No goodbyes. No explanation to the kids as to what happened and why. Nothing. One day the kids are living happily with their mother and the same day they are given to their abusive father—as his possessions, without any care for the severe trauma this will undoubtedly cause.
Like so many mothers, Christina just couldn’t imagine that with all that evidence, all those professionals expert in child trauma believing Imogen, that she would not at least get a temporary protective order until the abuse could be further evaluated. It is common knowledge that children do not disclose all the abuse right away. They need time.
Of course, the zoom calls meant the father would be monitoring everything said by mom and kids—thus, achieving the overall goal of silencing them and enabling the abuse to continue. The father subsequently took Imogen out of girl scouts and other community activities, obviously to prevent her telling anyone else about the abuse.
But Family Court judges are not interested in the truth about men’s abuse of their children, whom they, in effect, still own—as per the patriarchal order. Judges do not want to give children more time to disclose because the agenda is to silence them, thereby giving permission for the entitled father to continue his abuse.
The kids were so traumatized by being taken away from their mother and forced to live with their abuser that they were quite upset during the zoom calls. They sometimes cried and screamed for their mother. Hence, after a couple weeks, the father did not allow the calls anymore. He threatened they would not be able to speak with her unless they acted like everything was OK.
Now, this was clearly in violation of the visitation order, but would Judge Teixeira hold him in contempt? Of course not. It’s only mothers who are held in contempt when they justifiably keep kids from abusive fathers, not fathers who unjustifiably keep kids away from loving mothers.
Christina went on social media to expose the injustice being perpetrated upon her children and her. After a couple months, she was apparently given a deal: stop the social media exposition and you can see your kids, but only professionally supervised at the cost of $1000/week; and, of course, don’t ever say anything to anyone about the father’s abuse ever again. Because, after all, he’s the father and is entitled to abuse the children if he so chooses.
Deal?
Christina had no choice. She was desperate to be with her children and knew they needed to be with her.
On March 6, Christina and her kids got their first visit together in over two months. As you can see, they were very happy to be reunited.
TAKE AWAYS
The judge’s threat to put the kids in foster care is yet another example of judicial extortion. Judges often use a mother’s contact with her children to extort her into to getting with the program.
The blindsiding of mothers via an unexpected switching of custody to the father at a pre-trial hearing is a common trick in Post-Separation Crisis cases. Judges keep mothers strung along, keeping the hope alive that they will be able to protect their children right up until the coup de grâce. Christina said after the ruse that she could not believe she fell for it.
Note that a judge does not need to order reunification therapy when kids are young. Placing them under the complete control of their abusive father to silence them about his abuse is sufficient. It is much easier to traumatize little kids into compliance than pre-teens and teens. This supports the Women’s Coalition’s position that it is not reunification therapy that is the problem but the Family Court agenda to silence children.
And the use of parental alienation in this case is also consistent with the Coalition’s stance. The judge made false findings Christine was alienating the kids from the father and then allowed the father to alienate the kids from her. That is the problem, not that alienation is an invalid concept.
Christina may have been silenced but many other mothers who’ve experienced similar treatment in Family Court are keeping the truth up on their platforms. Eight other victims of Judge Teixeira have come forward to expose her oppression and torture of mothers and children.
When talking about Christina’s case, it is important to put it in the context of the larger picture. It follows the same Post-Separation Crisis pattern that millions of women across the decades experience. Hopefully her case will be one of the rare ones that turns around.
One of the Coalition’s goals is to warn women that the system is rigged so they do not get blindsided like Christine was. It may not change the outcome, but at least they will be psyched up for what’s coming and understand it’s not their fault.
Although it is wonderful Christina and her kids can now be together again occasionally, it is important to not lose sight of the fact that there was no valid reason for the judge to take the kids away from her. The order was made for one reason and one only: to entitle and empower the father—the Family Court M.O.
This is systemic oppression and torture of women post-separation. The only way it will end is by taking judges’ power away, and the only way for that to happen is to shut down family courts and have post-separation cases heard in a real court. Join Women’s Coalition International to demand real change.
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CHAPTER 10: Playing Strindberg in August
“Playing Strindberg in August” is Chapter 10 of Mother-Fucking: The Saga of One Fucked Mother.
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Ms Christina = not one thing more than i) a slave and ii) a handmaid and iii) now, poor.
ALL of H E R mawwied, unmawwied and litigating life.
Those SO SADDENED children. And this ONE M O R E FUCKED MOTHER.
Please, Women, please H E L P SMASH the PATRIARCHY ... ... along with its BEAUCOUP, FAWNING and SYCOPHANTIC ENABLERS inside the patriarchs' courts and outside within the enslavers' obsequious spheres.
Family court judges abuse their power. They give child custody to males that request it. Women and their children will continue to be separated as long as family court exists. Systemic male entitlement dominates family court. Women are stripped of their financial resources fighting a battle that cannot be won. It doesn't matter if there is evidence of abuse. It doesn't matter if the father is not the biological father or even a US citizen. Actress Kelly Rutherford had to move to Monaco to be near her children. Family court leaves women without their children and penniless. Children are used by their fathers. Children are used by family court judges. Family court judges threaten women to comply or lose their children. Mothers often lose more time with their children when they comply. Vulnerable women that are desperate to be with their children are drained financially by family court judges. Mothers cannot protect their children in family court. Family court judges endanger children. Family court is a torture chamber. A new system is needed. Family court judges must be stripped of their power. Family court must end.