Jul 9, 2023Liked by Womens Coalition International
Sisters in Solidarity is needed. Merging the Custody Crisis, the Financial Crisis and the Domestic Abuse Crisis into the Post-Separation Crisis is a wonderful idea. They are all intertwined. They are designed by abusive men to make women helpless and hopeless. Abusive men are determined to destroy women. Often, women are alone in their pain. Family members sometimes exploit rifts and become complicit with the abuser. Friends begin to drop off when they can't endure the long haul nature of this situation. The stress takes a toll. Women get emotionally drained and physically ill. Suicide too often becomes a desired escape. Understanding is found with women who have experienced this nightmare. We can share survival skills. We can gather strength by unifying further. We can use our pain and suffering to rise from the ashes. We will empower each other and strengthen ourselves. Together, we will make strides to protect women and children. Together, we will demand the rights we've been denied. We will fight the systemic sexism we face and end family court. Sisters in Solidarity will establish a new and just system.
Jul 9, 2023Liked by Womens Coalition International
In re " ... ... These gender power imbalances likely favored one or the other, more or less, over the ages until about ten thousand years ago, when patriarchy took hold. Men were then able to take total, lasting control.
The key to men’s long-lasting domination is not just that men were able to form powerful alliances. It was that they were able to prevent women from forming effective counter-alliances. Now women must once again create alliances to take back the power to counteract male dominance and control. " THEN You, Woman, have, .A N G E R I N G L Y. ... ... N O T been PAYING ATTENTION.
AND IF You, Woman, have been A N Y SPERM SOURCE's OBSEQUIOUS SYCOPHANT helping him to APROVECHAR - FUCK OVER / to APROVECHAR - T A K E FAR AWAY FROM the MAMA ... ... HER OWN BABES ? THEN ... ... the Entire Scorched Earth's FUCKING S H A M E BE upon You.
Jul 9, 2023Liked by Womens Coalition International
Such good news and ideas, let's rally. The reason they have device plots to make sure I am without money and defense is because they know I would pay for a lawyer to sue them simply judges make sure we are financially destroyed so we can't do this for their favorite lawyers in kahoots. They have been stalking me for 42 years. Judge William Patrick Butte County and Judge John sugiyama Contra Costa. It's a well-boiled machine that colludes with all industry affecting a woman who desires to parent her children away from violence and strife; a mafia, nothing less.
Jul 16, 2023Liked by Womens Coalition International
You touch on a lot of intersecting points that I have learned about recently in relation to patriarchy. One is “coalitionary aggression.” Like chimpanzees, but few other animal groups, human males engage in coalitionary aggression against the females of their species. It is the joining of forces in a coordinated pattern to the detriment of another group, in this case, females. Then there is FUBU - For Us By Us. Women, and I will specifically highlight white women in this context, harm themselves by not recognizing that the system was not designed with their rights [or protection] in mind. The constitution specifically excused women because the powerful white males who authored it saw women as chattel. Women of African descent did not have autonomy over their bodies as they were forced to breed with their own men, whether there was a loving relationship or not, and forced into sexual bondage by any white man that wanted dominance and control over them (including Sally Hemings). Thereafter, black women always knew that the system was not there for their protection and have never trusted the FUBU system. The system was never designed with the protection of victims in mind, it was designed to insulate powerful, well-resourced men from accountability. It can no longer be said that it’s only white men because: OJ, Bill Cosby, and R. Kelly. Any man with the resources can insulate himself from accountability with the legal system that was derived from the British colonial structure. Black women were the first to sound the alarm to congress about sexual assault (long before Anita Hill), were the first to prevail in sexual harassment suits, and the alarm of rolling back reproductive rights. This is not an oppression Olympics statement; it is an elucidation of the lack of recognition that white supremacy has wrought on white women. White women have long benefited from white supremacy by their adjacency to white men. It’s only when they challenge white men’s power (or even celebrated, wealthy, and powerful black men) in court that they find out who really holds the power. The system is not for you and only by forming partnerships with all women will women prevail because this system was not designed for us. Unless and until white women recognize how they’ve been gaslighted by white men, women will never be liberated.
Jul 10, 2023Liked by Womens Coalition International
SO many women and children have been harmed, we need to stop it happening to more families, and raise awareness. Joining forces globally we can be one powerful voice to bring change. I’m read to get started!
You just have no idea how much I needed to read this tonight! I have a 3 day custody trial coming up this Wed against my abusive ex and father to my 3yr old twin daughters. Over the last 2 years he has been able to use the family and criminal courts to continue his abuse against me and my daughters. He's been allowed 4 different false restraining orders where hes been allowed to traumatically take my daughters with the help of police force. He would then keep them from me until a court hearing. But that wasnt enough, my ex would then make up false texts from me using an app, and wld call the police to report me for violating the no contact order. I would literally have to hide when id hear a knock at my door, and still do out of fear that I'll be arrested. Then before the hearings he would experience some "family emergency" or "death", and the judge would allow him a continuance, so days would turn to weeks away from my little girls. His entire purpose in life is to punish me for leaving him, and he knows the only thing that will hurt me is being kept from my children. He kidnapped them on an overnight visit and didn't bring them home for almost 3 months! NO ONE could help me get them back, why? Because there was just no imminent threat of danger. Every day for almost 60 days I wrote letters and begged anyone who worked for DHS, The children's welfare Ombudsman, the Attorney General, police, sheriff's, and I even had an open case with the national center for missing children...Yet every person throughout every organization that promised to protect my children, FAILED ME AND MY DAUGHTERS OVER AND OVER AGAIN. Both my girls came home but were diagnosed with severe separation anxiety, PTSD, and attachment disorder. Their night terrors are horrific, and they now have intensive weekly play therapy sessions....yet when I reported it to DHS for a mental injury, it of course was unfounded. One thing that still haunts me and upsets me the most from that time was what the police told me when I asked them to do a welfare check on my daughters..."we're not getting involved, and we're not going to drive out to his house. We know all about these situations and women like you. Your just trying to harass a good father during his time with his children." This was after 14 days without any contact from my children or their father. Eventually when I kept calling each night, they threatened me with charges if I were to call back. No mother deserves that type of treatment and those people all need to be held accountable. I will not stop fighting and I will not stop sharing my story until the day I die, because this needs to stop. My ex has also made 14 false allegations of child abuse against me, falsely reported me to the Board of a Nursing, my employers, and the federal government. Tonight as I sit here going through the almost 200 exhibits that he has filed in our custody case, I am overwhelmed with the amount of false text messages he's made up. My only defense is my time stamped phone log from my phone company that shows every message Ive ever sent.... But the family court judges still allow his evidence in because they are just not willing to believe that a father would ever do something like that. Especially when he plays the victim so we'll, and accuses me of parental alienation. I am emotionally and financially drained, but I try and remind myself that I am finally free from his control and his abuse, and that is worth more than anything. He didn't win, and in fact, he only made me stronger. Only God knows what the outcome will be on Wednesday, but I know with 100% certainty that I have fought with every ounce in me, and I am doing every single thing possible to protect my babies. They will know that one day. And whatever the outcome is on Friday, I will keep moving onward & forward for my children. I am also making a promise to them, that I will help other children and mothers who are fighting this same war. I know God put me through this for a reason, and that's why I plan to apply to law school next fall. I stand in solidarity as a sister to all women who need support. Thank you for reading my story. I hadn't planned to share it in the comments, but something told me to. Prayers for Wednesday please!
We have to believe that we went through what we did for a REASON, and that reason is to be one of the people to end this cruel, unjust, WILDLY unconstitutional system. We’re the only ones who can! I spent years writing to hundreds of pols, NGOs, judicial commissions, reporters, etc. Although I never got any replies, I was building a foundation for myself. I did EVERYTHING POSSIBLE to stop what was happening to me so others wouldn’t have to. I can say with authority now that abolition is the only solution, and it happens to be a right guaranteed to each of us whether lawyers like it or not! Keep the faith, sister! You might very well lose every battle (as I did), but we will win this war. History is on our side!
Yes! I’m sort-of on the other side of this in Hamilton County TN. Two of my kids are grown. The ex-husband finally got tired of them and left town. Hallelujah! BUT, he now evades child support despite being a wealthy dentist. Family court was my nightmare for so many years. I will always carry the trauma as will my children. Thank you for speaking up for us!
Not sure I can make the call, but I’m traveling to Quartzsite Az to set up an action camp to flyer/poll/petition and share skills with nomad types like me intent on dismantling this horrible system and getting REPARATIONS! 500k in one place from all walks of life… this organizer can’t pass it up. Please get a hold of me if you want to participate! Hope to have DAILY workshops out there.
Jen Wallis, founder Family Law Abolition Working Group (FLAWG the courts!)
Sisters in Solidarity is needed. Merging the Custody Crisis, the Financial Crisis and the Domestic Abuse Crisis into the Post-Separation Crisis is a wonderful idea. They are all intertwined. They are designed by abusive men to make women helpless and hopeless. Abusive men are determined to destroy women. Often, women are alone in their pain. Family members sometimes exploit rifts and become complicit with the abuser. Friends begin to drop off when they can't endure the long haul nature of this situation. The stress takes a toll. Women get emotionally drained and physically ill. Suicide too often becomes a desired escape. Understanding is found with women who have experienced this nightmare. We can share survival skills. We can gather strength by unifying further. We can use our pain and suffering to rise from the ashes. We will empower each other and strengthen ourselves. Together, we will make strides to protect women and children. Together, we will demand the rights we've been denied. We will fight the systemic sexism we face and end family court. Sisters in Solidarity will establish a new and just system.
In re " ... ... These gender power imbalances likely favored one or the other, more or less, over the ages until about ten thousand years ago, when patriarchy took hold. Men were then able to take total, lasting control.
The key to men’s long-lasting domination is not just that men were able to form powerful alliances. It was that they were able to prevent women from forming effective counter-alliances. Now women must once again create alliances to take back the power to counteract male dominance and control. " THEN You, Woman, have, .A N G E R I N G L Y. ... ... N O T been PAYING ATTENTION.
AND IF You, Woman, have been A N Y SPERM SOURCE's OBSEQUIOUS SYCOPHANT helping him to APROVECHAR - FUCK OVER / to APROVECHAR - T A K E FAR AWAY FROM the MAMA ... ... HER OWN BABES ? THEN ... ... the Entire Scorched Earth's FUCKING S H A M E BE upon You.
--- --- Dr Maas
Such good news and ideas, let's rally. The reason they have device plots to make sure I am without money and defense is because they know I would pay for a lawyer to sue them simply judges make sure we are financially destroyed so we can't do this for their favorite lawyers in kahoots. They have been stalking me for 42 years. Judge William Patrick Butte County and Judge John sugiyama Contra Costa. It's a well-boiled machine that colludes with all industry affecting a woman who desires to parent her children away from violence and strife; a mafia, nothing less.
You touch on a lot of intersecting points that I have learned about recently in relation to patriarchy. One is “coalitionary aggression.” Like chimpanzees, but few other animal groups, human males engage in coalitionary aggression against the females of their species. It is the joining of forces in a coordinated pattern to the detriment of another group, in this case, females. Then there is FUBU - For Us By Us. Women, and I will specifically highlight white women in this context, harm themselves by not recognizing that the system was not designed with their rights [or protection] in mind. The constitution specifically excused women because the powerful white males who authored it saw women as chattel. Women of African descent did not have autonomy over their bodies as they were forced to breed with their own men, whether there was a loving relationship or not, and forced into sexual bondage by any white man that wanted dominance and control over them (including Sally Hemings). Thereafter, black women always knew that the system was not there for their protection and have never trusted the FUBU system. The system was never designed with the protection of victims in mind, it was designed to insulate powerful, well-resourced men from accountability. It can no longer be said that it’s only white men because: OJ, Bill Cosby, and R. Kelly. Any man with the resources can insulate himself from accountability with the legal system that was derived from the British colonial structure. Black women were the first to sound the alarm to congress about sexual assault (long before Anita Hill), were the first to prevail in sexual harassment suits, and the alarm of rolling back reproductive rights. This is not an oppression Olympics statement; it is an elucidation of the lack of recognition that white supremacy has wrought on white women. White women have long benefited from white supremacy by their adjacency to white men. It’s only when they challenge white men’s power (or even celebrated, wealthy, and powerful black men) in court that they find out who really holds the power. The system is not for you and only by forming partnerships with all women will women prevail because this system was not designed for us. Unless and until white women recognize how they’ve been gaslighted by white men, women will never be liberated.
Exactly right, well said!
SO many women and children have been harmed, we need to stop it happening to more families, and raise awareness. Joining forces globally we can be one powerful voice to bring change. I’m read to get started!
You just have no idea how much I needed to read this tonight! I have a 3 day custody trial coming up this Wed against my abusive ex and father to my 3yr old twin daughters. Over the last 2 years he has been able to use the family and criminal courts to continue his abuse against me and my daughters. He's been allowed 4 different false restraining orders where hes been allowed to traumatically take my daughters with the help of police force. He would then keep them from me until a court hearing. But that wasnt enough, my ex would then make up false texts from me using an app, and wld call the police to report me for violating the no contact order. I would literally have to hide when id hear a knock at my door, and still do out of fear that I'll be arrested. Then before the hearings he would experience some "family emergency" or "death", and the judge would allow him a continuance, so days would turn to weeks away from my little girls. His entire purpose in life is to punish me for leaving him, and he knows the only thing that will hurt me is being kept from my children. He kidnapped them on an overnight visit and didn't bring them home for almost 3 months! NO ONE could help me get them back, why? Because there was just no imminent threat of danger. Every day for almost 60 days I wrote letters and begged anyone who worked for DHS, The children's welfare Ombudsman, the Attorney General, police, sheriff's, and I even had an open case with the national center for missing children...Yet every person throughout every organization that promised to protect my children, FAILED ME AND MY DAUGHTERS OVER AND OVER AGAIN. Both my girls came home but were diagnosed with severe separation anxiety, PTSD, and attachment disorder. Their night terrors are horrific, and they now have intensive weekly play therapy sessions....yet when I reported it to DHS for a mental injury, it of course was unfounded. One thing that still haunts me and upsets me the most from that time was what the police told me when I asked them to do a welfare check on my daughters..."we're not getting involved, and we're not going to drive out to his house. We know all about these situations and women like you. Your just trying to harass a good father during his time with his children." This was after 14 days without any contact from my children or their father. Eventually when I kept calling each night, they threatened me with charges if I were to call back. No mother deserves that type of treatment and those people all need to be held accountable. I will not stop fighting and I will not stop sharing my story until the day I die, because this needs to stop. My ex has also made 14 false allegations of child abuse against me, falsely reported me to the Board of a Nursing, my employers, and the federal government. Tonight as I sit here going through the almost 200 exhibits that he has filed in our custody case, I am overwhelmed with the amount of false text messages he's made up. My only defense is my time stamped phone log from my phone company that shows every message Ive ever sent.... But the family court judges still allow his evidence in because they are just not willing to believe that a father would ever do something like that. Especially when he plays the victim so we'll, and accuses me of parental alienation. I am emotionally and financially drained, but I try and remind myself that I am finally free from his control and his abuse, and that is worth more than anything. He didn't win, and in fact, he only made me stronger. Only God knows what the outcome will be on Wednesday, but I know with 100% certainty that I have fought with every ounce in me, and I am doing every single thing possible to protect my babies. They will know that one day. And whatever the outcome is on Friday, I will keep moving onward & forward for my children. I am also making a promise to them, that I will help other children and mothers who are fighting this same war. I know God put me through this for a reason, and that's why I plan to apply to law school next fall. I stand in solidarity as a sister to all women who need support. Thank you for reading my story. I hadn't planned to share it in the comments, but something told me to. Prayers for Wednesday please!
We have to believe that we went through what we did for a REASON, and that reason is to be one of the people to end this cruel, unjust, WILDLY unconstitutional system. We’re the only ones who can! I spent years writing to hundreds of pols, NGOs, judicial commissions, reporters, etc. Although I never got any replies, I was building a foundation for myself. I did EVERYTHING POSSIBLE to stop what was happening to me so others wouldn’t have to. I can say with authority now that abolition is the only solution, and it happens to be a right guaranteed to each of us whether lawyers like it or not! Keep the faith, sister! You might very well lose every battle (as I did), but we will win this war. History is on our side!
❤️✊🏻
Yes! I’m sort-of on the other side of this in Hamilton County TN. Two of my kids are grown. The ex-husband finally got tired of them and left town. Hallelujah! BUT, he now evades child support despite being a wealthy dentist. Family court was my nightmare for so many years. I will always carry the trauma as will my children. Thank you for speaking up for us!
i LOVE this.
i have a group already.
we are "the wolfpack of women."
They have soooooo underestimated us. Fight on, sis!!! ✊🏻❤️
Not sure I can make the call, but I’m traveling to Quartzsite Az to set up an action camp to flyer/poll/petition and share skills with nomad types like me intent on dismantling this horrible system and getting REPARATIONS! 500k in one place from all walks of life… this organizer can’t pass it up. Please get a hold of me if you want to participate! Hope to have DAILY workshops out there.
Jen Wallis, founder Family Law Abolition Working Group (FLAWG the courts!)