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Patty Sierra's avatar

I absolutely agree with everything said in this article, though I would like to add one comment. There's a reason there is a conflict in talking about alienation. "Alienation" is falsely used against mothers in family court when a child reports abuse by the father. This is then used to give the abusive father custody as the judge says the mother will never support a relation with the father and is "alienating" them from the father. Mothers tend to believe that children need at least some relationship with the father and will bend over backwards to facilitate this, often even when he abused her or if she fears for their safety and thus asks visitation be supervised. They rarely, if ever, try to alienate the children from their father. Abusive fathers, on the other hand, do try to alienate the children from the mother. They do this as another way of hurting the mother. Many people decide they no longer wish to stay in their marriage for many different reasons. Divorce is legal. But good parents who decide to seperate, make decisions with the best interest of any children as a top priority. They work together and co-parent appropriately. They don't use the children as weapons. In family court, mothers get falsely accused of alienating, while abusive fathers get supported in their alienation. This is why the word "alienation" has gotten such a bad rep recently. If this difference isn't understood, this problem will never be solved. Mothers need to be protected from this false accusation, while abusive fathers need to be held accountable for their abusing.

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Joyce Booth's avatar

Family court judges often grant child custody to males that request it. It doesn't matter if they're abusive. Children are forced to grow up in the environment these men and complicit individuals provide. Family court judges empower men and disempower women. Patriarchy dominates family court. Children are considered male property. They are often taken from their loving mothers. Family court judges falsely deem loving mothers unfit. They endanger children. Removing children from their primary attachment figure is harmful. The damage can last a lifetime. Mothers are wrongly blamed. Family court is about male power and control. Women and children suffer. Mothers cannot protect their children in family court. Women must continue to unite and fight for a new system. A jury would give women and children a chance at justice. Family court must end. Family court judges abuse their power. They must no longer have the power to do so. Women need the power to protect their children. The best interests of a child are to be primarily with their loving mother.

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