Family Court Killed Virginia Giuffre
The System Enables Fathers to Alienate Kids from Mothers
Sadly, Virginia Giuffre, the most prominent victim of Jeffrey Epstein’s sex-trafficking ring, ended her life Friday.
In a not-so-cryptic message to her followers, she pinned a black screen with a broken heart emoji to her Instagram just before committing suicide.
The black screen and stars obviously reflect the ending of her life. The broken heart emoji conveys her great sadness at having been alienated from her children, whom she described as “the light of her life.”
Causation or just correlation?
We will never know for sure, but in an earlier post Virginia said being alienated from her kids was the worst thing that had ever happened to her. And it is not uncommon for mothers to have suicidal ideation after being estranged from their precious children.
It is important to keep in mind that the father would not have been able to alienate her children from her without a judge enabling it, and the judge would not have been able to enable him if it were not for the “specialized” system that gives judges virtually absolute power.
So it is not hyperbole to declare: “Family Court Killed Virginia Giuffre”.
Let’s put the ultimate blame where it belongs so we can end the Custody Crisis once and for all.
MSM is blaming her suicide solely on the “toll” of Virginia’s long-past victimization as a child and teen.
In the end, the toll of abuse is so heavy that it became unbearable for Virginia to handle its weight.
This misplaced blame, despite Virginia clearly revealing in past months her present victimization of domestic violence and being kept away from her children. This is par for the course since mainstream media is largely controlled by Old Boys. Definitely don’t want to place blame on the father or the system that is designed to let the father get away with domestic violence and alienating children…
In a column earlier this month we told Virginia’s true story. See Epstein Victim Says Being Alienated from Kids Worse than Being Sex-Trafficked for more detailed coverage.
Virginia had warned multiple times in recent months that she was seriously depressed as a result of being cut completely out of her children’s lives and them being “poisoned” against her. She stated that it was getting worse with each passing day.
My beautiful babies have no clue how much I love them and they’re being poisoned with lies. I miss them so very much.
I have been through hell & back in my 41 years but this is incredibly hurting me worse than anything else. Hurt me, abuse me but don’t take my babies.
My heart is shattered and every day that passes my sadness only deepens.
But neither the court nor the father did anything. Of course not. Cruelty is the point. Make the bitch suffer. Make her pay. Oh how men covet their patriarchal power to punish and torture “their” woman by not only taking her children, but turning them against her.
In fact, many men assiduously work to drive their ex to suicide. The Ultimate Revenge.
It is no wonder the Old Boys implemented a special court system that maintains this fabulous, age-old leverage.
RECENT EVENTS
Virginia endured a brutal assault by her husband in January that landed her in the hospital with serious injuries—a broken sternum and perforated eye. This followed over ten years of DV, according to relatives.
But her ex was granted a Restraining Order against her that included the children. Typical “Screw the Bitch” strategy.
Virginia was kicked out of her family home. She had to live alone, suddenly—after being a full-time mama to her three children, who are all now teens. She had bought a beautiful home on the beach for her family with money from settlements compensating her for the horrific child sexual abuse she had endured.
But sure, give the house to the father. Kick Mom out. And let him keep the kids in the family home bought with her blood and tears.
Virginia was later criminally charged and was being prosecuted for sending the father a text, likely asking about the kids. This supposedly violated the bogus RO, and the D.A. agreed to charge it. D.A.’s and Criminal Court judges often act as accomplices to Family Court judges—as the enforcers.
Virginia posted from her hospital bed last month that she had only 4 days to live—which got a lot of media attention. Apparently, a doctor had told her if she did not treat a kidney problem, she would soon die. She used the occasion to beg to see her children “one last time”. But the condition was treated and she was released from the hospital in a few days.
There was a preliminary hearing scheduled in criminal court on the violation of the RO on April 9th but it was continued due to her hospitalization. Shame on the D.A. for prosecuting her, which contributed to her feelings of powerlessness and depression.
This is in contrast to RO’s issued against men for real violence against women. These protection orders rarely last long, nor include the children. The narrative is that the father has “only” abused the mother so it is not relevant to custody. The case of the attempted murderer of Pennsylvania Governor Josh Shapiro is a good example. He had an active criminal indictment against him for domestic violence, yet he was granted primary custody. The. System. Is. Rigged.
ALIENATION IS VALID
Since mothers have been encouraged (prohibited) to not use the word “alienation” by Domestic Abuse/Protective Parent [DAPP] organizations, a word of explanation is offered here as to why that is a bad idea for our cause to end the Crisis. They claim alienation is not valid or scientific.
However, the concept of alienation is valid, whether alienation by a parent—parental alienation—is empirically validated as a distinct construct or not. Or whether it has been designated as a psychiatric diagnosis or not. That does not matter and is not the problem in contested custody cases. Concepts can be valid without having been scientifically proven, and judges can use them in their decisions.
Just because judges routinely lie about mothers alienating does not mean the word or concept should be tossed out. Alienation best describes the phenomena, and mothers should not be made to stop using it. That is counterproductive. They should be encouraged to use it to help expose the truth of what is going on in family courts.
More focus and activist energy must be on how judges are enabling fathers to alienate children from mothers. It is epidemic and has led to death of too many mothers like Virginia [See below for a list of a few of the casualties]. Attention and support should be given to the leagues of alienated mothers around the world who are hanging on but continue to suffer on a daily basis.
Alienation from mothers also, of course, harms children. Taking them away from their primary nurturer causes trauma, which often causes dissociation. This keeps the truth and pain out of consciousness but can cause psychological and physical problems. Children harmed and traumatized this way via Family Court is also epidemic.
It also causes much harm to society indirectly—but also directly as in the case of the Florida State University mass shooter. He had been alienated from his mother from the age of 10, and that undoubtedly contributed to his violence: FSU Mass Shooter Was Taken & Alienated from Mom at 10-Years-Old.
THE SYSTEM: THE ULTIMATE ENABLER
A father cannot alienate children from a mother without a judge enabling him to do so. This important fact is often missed.
Judges can directly empower the father to alienate children through orders giving him sole custody and restricting contact with the mother, or they can simply refuse to enforce orders that allow for visitation. Any way you slice it, it is the judge who is responsible in individual cases, not just the father.
But, more importantly, it is the system that gives judges the virtually-absolute power necessary to falsely deem mothers alienators and permit fathers to alienate.
So the Family Court system is the Ultimate Enabler.
That’s why the only way to end the Crisis is to remove custody cases from Family Court and for them to be heard in a real court, with a jury as the fact-finder, not a judge.
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Virginia would no doubt like for her untimely and unnecessary death to be used to help expose and end the Custody Crisis.
RIP VIRGINIA
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FAMILY COURT CASUALTIES
Here is a list of mothers who’ve lost their lives via the Family Court system and links to our columns about them. RIP Mamas.
Mary: RFK Jr. Drove His Wife to Suicide via Family Court
Catherine: Mom Uses Suicide to Warn Women about Family Court
Narkis: Mom Who Said "Many Women End Up Dead" Has Died
Terra: Mom Dies Following Years of Judicial Torture
Lindsay: Judge Enables Father to Murder Mother & Daughter
Anne-Christine: Dad Murders Mom: Gets Custody
Nia: Family Court Causes Another Mother’s Death
Star: Judge Denies Protective Order: Mom Stabbed to Death in Front of Son
Michelle: Family Court Causes Another Mother’s Death
Nicole: Mom Dies Due to Son Being Taken Away, Given to Ex
Nashwa: Protective Mom Found Dead Day after Mother’s Day
Kymberlie: Woman Commits Suicide by Train on Daughter's 16th Birthday
Nicole: Mom Murdered after Judge Orders Shared Custody
Jennifer: Missing Mom’s Ex Charged with Murder: Held on $6M Bail
Hayley: Mom of 4 Drops Dead in Court after Custody Ruling
Marissa: Face of the Crisis
Shannon: Mom Passes Away after Battling Fervently to Regain Custody
Kimi: Mom with Cancer Passes Away without Seeing Children
Sheila: Despondent Mum Commits Suicide after Kids Given to Father
Jessica: Mom Commits Suicide After 8 Year Battle for Her Kids
Olga: Family Court Causes Another Tragedy
Brenda: Another Woman Commits Suicide after Children Taken and Given to Father
Rest in Peace Mamas…
IN OTHER NEWS
CHAPTER 28 NEXT SECTION IS OUT!
Legion finishes up with her questioning of Herry on the stand. He continues to lie and evade, but she gets him to admit to many things that demonstrate he should not continue to have sole custody—not even half—not even unsupervised. He acknowledges he has never told the boys he loves them, and his neglectful parenting does not support he loves them either.
After Herry steps down, a good friend of Legion’s takes the stand. She testifies that Legion is a wonderful mother, Herry is not a good father, and that he had said he wanted Legion to “hit bottom”. In retrospect, Legion sees that the three men present—judge, opposing counsel, and Herry—were all just biding their time, tolerating her, while she got testimony, facts and evidence on the record. But none of her brilliant, pro se lawyering would matter—“not one whit”. They all already knew what the outcome was going to be…
In the last section, Legion continues her direct examination of Herry. She makes many relevant points with her skilled questioning, despite his constant lies and assertions that he does not remember. She “landed into the areas of his sexual addiction, his ordering of the sabotage to my life and career as a veterinary professor and practitioner and his failures at loving.” She gets him to admit he is not allowing any contact with the boys, he’s telling them she’s crazy, and he’s using the stepmother to do all the parenting. But he will not admit that he had repeatedly beat her—including in front of the boys.
CHAPTER 28 of Mother-Fucking: The Saga of One Fucked Mother begins with Act III, Part 4 of “The Opera” from Book 3. The Opera has three Acts with five Parts—one for each of the three Family Court and two Appellate Court trials. Chapter 28 covers all of Act III: Part 4: the third Family Court trial and Part 5: the second Appellate trial. This is a long chapter and will be published in newsletter-sized bites.
Dr. Blue’s novel is based on her own experience of the Custody Crisis. It uniquely conveys how Family Court judges are “mother-fucking” women—a form of systemic oppression—as protagonist Legion is systematically and methodically deprived of her children and money and reduced to “one fucked mother”.
Chapters are stand-alone interesting so you can begin reading anywhere. A Cast of Characters follows to help readers at any point. All published chapters are included in the Section: “Saga of One F**ked Mother” accessible on the top bar of the home page of Women’s Coalition News & Views. Sequential chapters are published every Wednesday so make sure to subscribe if you haven’t yet!
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Family court judges endanger women and children. Loving mothers and their children are often separated. They are forced to suffer. The pain takes an emotional and physical toll. Women are punished. They frequently have their children taken. Many lose their homes and are left penniless. Family court judges often issue restraining orders on both men and women. Family court is about male power and control. Women have no enforceable rights. They are powerless to protect their children. Women are frequently coerced in family court. Children are used. They are considered male property. Family court judges often give child custody to males that request it. It doesn't matter if they're abusive. Facts and evidence make no difference. New laws and training programs won't help. Family court judges can rule how they choose. Their opinion is what matters. They face no consequences. Loving mothers are often falsely deemed unfit. Children are frequently isolated and traumatized. They are alienated from their mothers. The grief women experience often deepens. Mothers become helpless and hopeless. Family court judges must no longer be allowed to abuse their power. A jury would give women and children a chance at justice. Family court must end.
This country has always favored men’s freedoms over women’s except with child rearing. The courts over corrected and are punishing women for standing up to the abuser. How dare we. The myth that women (and children)lie is alive and well. It’s been perpetuated by the patriarchy for decades.
The research clearly states otherwise. But then they don’t believe in research do they?
Let no one ever say again “ hell hath no fury than a woman scorned” when its exactly the opposite. 70 women a month are murdered by domestic partners and that’s just in the US. ALL abusers lie and a minuscule % of women and children lie and of those that recant they do so out of fear for their lives and livelihoods.
And people say we should be grateful we are not living in Afghanistan.